How to stay happy in every situation we face ?

Happiness is a subjective state. Or to simplify it more for you, happiness comes from inside.

There are times when we are feeling miserable and sad, because many times you are trying to find out happiness from your outside world. See, there is no harm in that, we all seek happiness and a good laugh from our peer groups and our close ones, but many times these are the very people who make us sad and gloomy. These are the people who sometimes stab us in the back and hurt us deeply. For this, let me give you a few pointers on how to feel truly happy.

1.    STOP SPENDING A LOT OF TIME WITH YOUR SWEET HATERS.

Yes, you got me right! stop spending a lot of time with those who love you in front of you and when you turn your back, they start criticizing you. Such people don’t deserve your time and love, so leave them alone slowly. With this I mean that, be friends with them but just the Hi or Hellos friends, not more than that.

2.    MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF

Start spending a lot of time with yourself, eat some good pasta alone, be your best companion. I feel this is the truest way to be happy from inside. Love yourself, understand what drives you and motivates you in life. Make the time to analyze what passions you had in the childhood but somewhere got lost, reignite that fire and work towards them! This feel surely make you feel happy.

3.    GIVE YOURSELF A REALITY CHECK EVERY SUNDAY NIGHT

Every Sunday night, as you are going to sleep, for a few minutes, take your journal out, think about how well you performed during that week, how many good laughter did you share and how many times did you rise yourself up from the negativity of the world. Give yourself a check for this. By doing this, you will be feeling more alive and more energized during your life. And if you don’t feel you have lived upto that level, make it a resolution to be more happy next week ! Seems like an interesting game, isn’t it?

 

4.    FIND HAPPINESS INSIDE!!!

I know you won’t believe if I tell you that there is a never ending waterfall of happiness hidden inside of you. Don’t just look onto the faces of others to make you happy, because if you will, one day they will think that you are lonely and sad from inside and will thus leave you. I have seen many people getting attracted to the “happy” people in a room. You know what differentiates between those few and all others ? It is the fact that former produces happiness and the latter just receives it.

Nothing is really bad in this world. It’s all about the lens you are using to view it. For a few days, use my lens by trying out whatever I have shared with you, then come back here and do share with me how you felt.

Let me give you a sneak peek idea, watch Mr. Bean videos whenever you feel sad, it will surely lift up your mood.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

A valuable lesson to learn from Mr. Bean

I love watching Mr. Bean series. I've actually watched all of the original ones so now am left with only the cartoon version, but it's funny as well!

There are many lessons that we can learn from the character of Mr. Bean.

First of all, Rowan Atkinson is a LEGEND! A true Genius! I think nobody could ever play that character that well, in the whole mankind, the way he has played it so flawlessly. So this blog post is dedicated to his most popular character on screen, Mr. Bean!

The simple and small lesson I've learned from Mr. Bean is that even though he doesn't own a big Lamborghini or a big mansion, he still feels himself as the king of the world. His little green and black car seems like a Rolls Royce to him and his small cozy apartment seems to him like the sweetest place to live on Earth. Never sees challenges as challenges, rather sees them as opportunities and always proves to be clever of the lot! He really knows how to draw happiness worth millions from the tiniest of things. And that is TRUE GREATNESS! If you don't believe me go watch his video on YouTube titled "Mr. Bean in room no. 420" It is one of my favorites! Life seems to throw its challenges to him, but this man! This man always seems to have a solution for everything! Give him a to work as a dentist,he'll do it great ! Besides the fact that you'll end up getting all your teeth filled with medicine! (Hope you have seen his episode of Mr. Bean and the Dentist). And he's the best barber in the town as well ! Amazing haircuts with tons of laughter! (Mr. Bean barber episode). And The Teddy! Who can forget him?

So, in short, we can say that he is a totally fun guy. So why not we, be a guy like him or a mother like him or a CEO like him. No am not referring to carelessness depicted in the serial, that is just added in the series to make it look funny to the audience. But what I refer here is, why not we enjoy each and every moment of our life just like him? Why shouldn't we love our dear ones so much today, as if there is no tomorrow? Why shouldn't we, for a moment, forget about being a CEO or a manager and then talk to a stressed out employee on a friendly level? Where has anything but that habit of smiling gone?

Please incorporate all of his good attributes to pick up from, to elevate the way you do your current work. Your work represents you. Have fun so that you can increase your happiness to another level of bigness.

If you are right now at your workplace, kindly get up and go to your nearest human being, take their hand in yours and tell them how much you value them and the significance they hold for you. Or go home and hug your sweetheart so tightly that you make her blush all night and tell her "I love you" like you mean it and then take that person or your wife whoever it is, and watch a Mr. Bean episode with them. (It could be your children also)

And if you are alone and with strangers, get up, go to your nearest human being. Talk to them. Give some human touch. And watch any Mr. Bean video with them. Am sure you'll end up making a good friend for life. :)

Spread smiles!

By the way, did you ever wonder how Mr. Bean used to earn his living? I've been puzzled a lot by this question sometimes. Enjoy your day. 

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

How to make your EQ stronger ??? [EQ Vs IQ (Part 2 of 2)]

[Read : EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2) ]

Hello! I hope all are doing well and hunting down your dreams every day. In my earlier blog post, I shared with you an example that how EQ is different from IQ.

We most probably are pretty much aware now that the EQ is much more important than the IQ. All the major companies around the globe do want their workforce to have a strong IQ but from past few decades, this trend has been changing. Every organization now wants to employ those candidates who qualify in IQ test but also stand par excellence to others. In the managerial levels as well, it is seen that the managers who have strong EQ tend to move up the organizational ladder much faster than their contemporaries. Emotional Intelligence is very much different from academic intelligence. Many who are book smart face difficulties in dealing with complex life situations in future just because they forget about strengthening their emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence is simply referred to as the ability of which one can remain poised, serene and calm amidst various troubles happening in his/ her life. It can also be defined as the ability of a person to be stable inside when the outside seems to have fallen apart.

So how do we make our EQ stronger?

I suggest you, the following tips to focus on for a few days to make yourself much stronger in EQ than others. Before reading below just remember this formula:-

      EQ = SELF WORTH

I’ll explain later why I have put this formula for you to consider.

1)    Give Love to yourself.

Many times it happens that we give love to others to such a great extent, be it in an imagination or in an outer world, that we ourselves make us empty from inside. This habit of loving others than they love you back should only be adopted if your own cup is filled to the full.

2)    Practice the wonderful habit of gratitude.

We don’t need all that money to be happy. Do we? We don’t even need to have a super luxury car to make ourselves happy. Yes, these material things are important in life and they do add to the spice in life. But many times we forget about saying”Thank You” for what we have. If you have a loving family, you are blessed. If you have food on your table, feel blessed. If you have a roof over your head and two eyes to read this blog post, you are truly blessed. Many don’t even have this privilege.

3)    Expect less.

Expectations are big culprits in robbing us off from our self-worth. It does feel bad when someone whom we cared a lot doesn’t give us back that same love and care. Read my blog post (titled : Why do we get hurt) to know more on this point. A simple rule to follow: Other than those who care for you, give what you get from them. That is a sure way to make yourself stand for yourself in times of difficulties. Letting people walk over you isn’t what true leaders do. They are friendly, yet super firm and deeply connected to their core values, of which self-worth comes among the most important ones.

4)    Burn out all past hurts and worries.

  Bruce Lee used to apply this technique during his tough times. He always used to write down his worries on a piece of paper and then burn up that paper. According to him, that burning paper would make him feel as if his worries and tensions are getting burned. This technique has helped me innumerable times to get past all negative emotions and exude passion and vitality in the world around me.

5)    Spend Alone Time.

For an hour every week, be alone. Switch off your cell phones. Go away from your family. Be very, very hard to reach. Shut out all noises to listen to the voice within you. Be alone for some hours. You can either go to a coffee shop or sit down on a bench in a park. Now rest your mind there. Think about your dreams. Think of yourself as a businessman and get into deep thinking mode to reflect on your ways of doing things and ask yourself if they are in line with your dreams or not. In this deep abyss of self-love, you will figure out who you truly are and what you are meant to be in life. Trust me, you will grow exponentially, you’ll figure out what actually gives you that adrenaline rush, you’ll discover your innate talents, you’ll experience true bliss after this exercise. You will then develop your own crystal clear clarity with which you will gift yourself the most beautiful gift of having a pristine mindset. 

6)    Last, but by no means the least, Dedicate yourself to something higher than just living your days. Serve the humanity. Discover your talents. Dedicate yourself to making this work a better place than you found it and if you cannot do it, will your living make any difference? Leave behind a legacy. Be kind to strangers. Respect humanity. Smile at your colleagues. Make a new friend every day. In the end, all that matters is how kind your heart truly is.

These were the Super Six that will lift you up in your EQ.

Remember that formula?

Revisit it and connect that formula to each one of these points, you’ll notice that how our Emotional Quotient is directly connected to our Self Worth.

Hope my ideas will provide you with some beautiful changes to make into your daily habits. DO them. Revisit this blog post as many times you feel the need of the push. Am here for you always.

Dream. Dare. Shine.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2)

Just a few weeks back I got my home renovated. Some labourers were employed who did their craft amazingly and made my home beautiful with a completely new, fresh and energizing ambience.

Now let me introduce you to my neighbor. He is a well mannered 34 years old man who is a senior level manager working in a big firm in Delhi.

So, on one day when the labourers were going from my home, after completing their that day's job, at the same time, this manager guy was coming up. The view was so contrasting to me that it intrigued me to look at them both separately and analyze them in different perspectives. After analyzing them for over an hour, In it, I discovered some deep wisdom to learn from the teacher called "Life".

On one side there is this labourer who is making a few dollars in a month so that he could afford a meagre existence in the slums. On the other hand, there is this manager, who makes 20X of what the labourer is earning. Now yes, we do understand the difference in both the parties is because of difference in educational qualifications, skill sets, knowledge and nature of work, besides other factors. But what really inspired me is the fact that a labourer seems to be much fitter and happier than the modern age managers ! The manager guy, which I shared with you about earlier is having a fat tummy and seems to be very lazy. Whereas the labourer is always active and full of energy during his whole work day. That labourer did engrave the high importance of fitness in our lives. Then when I looked closely at them, with regard to their personal lives, emotional standards, and the job satisfaction, I was surprised to see that the labourer won in all of it!

HOW COULD IT BE POSSIBLE?

For knowing the answer of this question, kindly choose any one of the two formulas :-

MORE MONEY = MORE HAPPINESS

OR

MORE MONEY = MORE TENSIONS + MORE WORRIES + MORE WORKS TO DO + MORE GLOOMY DAYS + MORE RISK OF LOSING THAT MONEY.

Now let me ask you, what formula do you agree on ?

If you got on the first one, let me congratulate you because you are on the abundance mindset.

And if you chose the second one, then you are in the scarcity mindset.

Why is that so ?

Abundance mindset makes you feel that you are in control of money, whereas the scarcity mindset suggests you that money is in control of you. No wonder that why most of the people then end up running after money and on the other hand why some people become millionaires in just one generation !

The labourer was on the abundance mindset, as compared to the manager who was residing in the scarcity mindset. The labourer is always smiling, takes his work just like a CEO gives regard to his work, enjoys his life completely and is in fact, according to me, leading a richer life as compared to the manager, who is constantly complaining, fat, smokes 3-4 cigarettes in a day and night. He has even forgotten how to smile.

This feels so painful to me that why do some people have a strong IQ but lack in a strong EQ ? A large part of the answer to this is that the "manager types" are not aware of the high importance of a strong EQ. A person with stronger EQ is able to dodge the problems of life much easily and wisely as compared to the other.

The word I want to focus here is balance. I believe we should balance the EQ of the labourer with the IQ of the manager.

Money is important in our lives. Obviously, it makes the journey of life easy, but it shouldn't be allowed to rule us. Otherwise, the health and emotional lives you are sacrificing right now to earn the money might be the same culprits who will eat up your bank account.  We really shouldn't let our emotional life be at the mercy of the work pressure of the job we are doing. I understand that these are tough times and your company needs you more than ever, but the times were always tough. And they always will be in the future as well. All humans have their share of the sorrows and smiles. Life actually means to count the smiles and eliminate the sorrows.

The labourer indeed taught me a valuable lesson. So, who do you think is richer among the two ?

I know you all will be on the lookout to know how to make your EQ stronger, so in my next blog post, you'll be served with some gorgeous ideas and mind blowing tactics to make you completely indomitable.

Till next time. 

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

How to be the real YOU ? (Part 4 of 4 )

[Read : How to be the real YOU ? (Part 3 of 4)  ]

Hello, Friends ! Hope you all are doing great!

Life’s  not always an easy ride. Well, had some tough days recently. But yes they taught me a lot and they provided me with some beautiful insights to share with you on this final blog post on "How to be the REAL YOU?"

So, here it goes:-

1)    Be Your Own Model

 Many of us have set up someone as our role models. They are the people who influence our lives in some way or the other. They motivate us. They inspire us. Directly or indirectly. What I urge you to do is, adapt the qualities of these people in yourself. Yes, it will be difficult. But, whatever comes free in life is always of lowest quality.

2)    Face Up Your Fears

Our Fears are nothing but those imaginary beings in our minds, created by us or the world outside. These parasites slowly and steadily eat up our own potential, our caliber and our confidence. And if you  notice carefully and go in detail about your fears, you will notice that yes they were imposed on us by the world. We have bought those fears from the weak minded individuals living with us in this society. Well, obviously you can't ignore these people but please, please and please go to your fears. A beautiful insight for you: - your fears scare you, right? Wouldn’t it feel good to you if you scare your fears away? I know it would. Have been there. Done that. Felt euphoric. !  I’ll dedicate one blog post to you on how to face up your fears. Look out for it in the future. Acting in the face of fear is scary, I agree, but yes this is the point where an abundance of growth resides. So, Fear your Fears. 

3)    Live Life Full Out

Let me ask you, are you really living up your life? Are you really being the small child at heart? If not, then let me tell you that you are still not living up your life. The real version of you deserves to shine out and make the world go wow with his/her expertise in whatever you’re doing. How would feel if everything that you wanted from your life gets presented to you in a few days or months? Now welcome to the reality. This thing never happens and never will until and unless you live out your every day like it’s your last. Small things in life, matter a lot. That chirping of the birds in the morning, the laughter of your kids, the good morning kiss of your spouse, the silent walks down the beach, that madness overloaded dance in the rain, all these things cost nothing and still we take them for granted and miss them out. I gently suggest you to enjoy these small things because they are the “living life full out moments.”

4)    Take calculated risks

All top people in every industry have the eye for a future opportunity. They all make calculated decisions and most of the times, they win out. What the mediocrity sees as a risk the genius notices it as an opportunity to amp up the game. Yes, the elite players know that the risk they are taking could be very costly but can you put a price tag on the feeling when you achieve success after doing the risk? No. You can’t.

5)    Smile

The first thing you and I did after the birth was a smile.(besides crying, just kidding guys) and still many of the people I know, they just don’t smile properly. I feel like asking them “sir, has the government put up some taxes on you for smiling?” Smiling makes us happy. It makes you feel that every problem you’re facing right now is small. And believe me, instead of going to the doctors and spending thousands of dollars to lower your stress levels, just buy some good funny movies and sit back and put your cell phones on silent. You’ll see the change yourself. It will be worth the investment.

6)    Burn your worries

Bruce Lee, heard the name? He used to do this technique. He always used to write down his worries on a piece of paper and then burn up that paper. According to him, that burning paper would make him feel as if his worries and tensions are getting burned.

7)    Last but not the least- Focus up your life on what you want, not on what you don’t want.

You want happiness, go for it! You want success, go for it! You want love, go for it! Do you want the best in the world? Go For It !!!

Life is too small… Why waste each day?

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.