Where Do You Count Yourself ?

It's a basic human tendency to count ourselves as superior to other human beings around us. Yes, no doubt in the fact that we are all masters of different crafts and skills and no one can match us; we are all unique. But what drives me to think is that does such kind of thinking makes us arrogant, egoistic or kind and a gentle human being ? This is by far the most imperative, highly impressionable point I have ever encountered with.

The main question I want you to consider right now, is that where do you count yourself ? Do you get counted as an arrogant, grumpy person or you are loved by all for being a kind and gentle human being ?

Now I know, no one of us would raise a hand and say "oh yeah! I am the grumpy idiot you're looking for".

So for your sake, I have developed a few questions for you to answer that will determine your side soon. Please be honest with yourself and give out the answer as quickly as it snaps, without delay.

Here we go !

Ready ?

1)    In a marriage or a family function or a big party, do you stand outside the group, make fewer conversations and tend to be a wallflower, preferring not to go and meet the other people ?

2)    When you wake up, you get straight into the shower, eat your breakfast and rush off to the office, without kissing goodbye to your loved ones ?

3)    Do you like the face you see in the mirror each and every day in the morning?

4)    Do you feel that your everyday activity is getting you somewhat closer to where you want to be at the end of your life ?

5)    Do you help a stranger now and then ?

6)    Do you believe in charity ?

7)    Do you ever feel like taking a flower (without any special occasion) for your sweetheart to tell him/her how much you appreciate them ?

8)    Do you have a weekly habit of calling up your parents and a monthly habit (at least once a month) to meet them ?

9)    Have you installed the same beliefs in your life which you proudly lecture to your peers about?

10)  Are you taking responsibility today ?

11)  Do you pay gratitude for what you have today, instead of fretting over for what you lack ?

12)  Can you show your answers, proudly, to these questions to your closest ones ?

13)  Do you love yourself ?

Result Time !

If you have answered "No" to 5 or more questions, then buddy, you stand on the egoistic, arrogant side. See it's not my view point, it's a general view. If you are not praising your wife for making a tasty dish, then to her you would definitely look grumpy. If you don't appreciate your subordinates or make no room for them to unleash their creativity then you will be tagged as a dictator, not a leader.

Reflect upon these questions in your journal today and deeply think where all do you need improvement.

We all have imperfections, including me, but we all can improve.

My job here is done to make you aware of your negatives. Action part lies on your side. Will you make the effort to move the needle from being a grumpy man to a kind, generous human being ?

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2)

Just a few weeks back I got my home renovated. Some labourers were employed who did their craft amazingly and made my home beautiful with a completely new, fresh and energizing ambience.

Now let me introduce you to my neighbor. He is a well mannered 34 years old man who is a senior level manager working in a big firm in Delhi.

So, on one day when the labourers were going from my home, after completing their that day's job, at the same time, this manager guy was coming up. The view was so contrasting to me that it intrigued me to look at them both separately and analyze them in different perspectives. After analyzing them for over an hour, In it, I discovered some deep wisdom to learn from the teacher called "Life".

On one side there is this labourer who is making a few dollars in a month so that he could afford a meagre existence in the slums. On the other hand, there is this manager, who makes 20X of what the labourer is earning. Now yes, we do understand the difference in both the parties is because of difference in educational qualifications, skill sets, knowledge and nature of work, besides other factors. But what really inspired me is the fact that a labourer seems to be much fitter and happier than the modern age managers ! The manager guy, which I shared with you about earlier is having a fat tummy and seems to be very lazy. Whereas the labourer is always active and full of energy during his whole work day. That labourer did engrave the high importance of fitness in our lives. Then when I looked closely at them, with regard to their personal lives, emotional standards, and the job satisfaction, I was surprised to see that the labourer won in all of it!

HOW COULD IT BE POSSIBLE?

For knowing the answer of this question, kindly choose any one of the two formulas :-

MORE MONEY = MORE HAPPINESS

OR

MORE MONEY = MORE TENSIONS + MORE WORRIES + MORE WORKS TO DO + MORE GLOOMY DAYS + MORE RISK OF LOSING THAT MONEY.

Now let me ask you, what formula do you agree on ?

If you got on the first one, let me congratulate you because you are on the abundance mindset.

And if you chose the second one, then you are in the scarcity mindset.

Why is that so ?

Abundance mindset makes you feel that you are in control of money, whereas the scarcity mindset suggests you that money is in control of you. No wonder that why most of the people then end up running after money and on the other hand why some people become millionaires in just one generation !

The labourer was on the abundance mindset, as compared to the manager who was residing in the scarcity mindset. The labourer is always smiling, takes his work just like a CEO gives regard to his work, enjoys his life completely and is in fact, according to me, leading a richer life as compared to the manager, who is constantly complaining, fat, smokes 3-4 cigarettes in a day and night. He has even forgotten how to smile.

This feels so painful to me that why do some people have a strong IQ but lack in a strong EQ ? A large part of the answer to this is that the "manager types" are not aware of the high importance of a strong EQ. A person with stronger EQ is able to dodge the problems of life much easily and wisely as compared to the other.

The word I want to focus here is balance. I believe we should balance the EQ of the labourer with the IQ of the manager.

Money is important in our lives. Obviously, it makes the journey of life easy, but it shouldn't be allowed to rule us. Otherwise, the health and emotional lives you are sacrificing right now to earn the money might be the same culprits who will eat up your bank account.  We really shouldn't let our emotional life be at the mercy of the work pressure of the job we are doing. I understand that these are tough times and your company needs you more than ever, but the times were always tough. And they always will be in the future as well. All humans have their share of the sorrows and smiles. Life actually means to count the smiles and eliminate the sorrows.

The labourer indeed taught me a valuable lesson. So, who do you think is richer among the two ?

I know you all will be on the lookout to know how to make your EQ stronger, so in my next blog post, you'll be served with some gorgeous ideas and mind blowing tactics to make you completely indomitable.

Till next time. 

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

Why your laziness will get you nowhere?

It feels so good when you are sitting in front of your TV or playing your favorite game and a large pizza, large coke and all the tasty burgers and chips are there to give you the best possible company. You are munching on them as if they're never gonna end and the game or the movie just adds spice to the aura. No one is there to disturb you. No one gives a damn about what you're doing and neither do you give a damn about the world. You don't care about the world. The world seems to be an illusion for you and the game or the movie seems to be your sole mission of the life. You just don't care that who will pay the bills and how. The movie/game is your life. When once you got rejected by a beautiful girl you slip into the abyss of depression and the combination of the movie and pizza seems to you like the only way to escape it. Your family is fed up with you and so are you fed up with them. This way, days slip into weeks, weeks slip into months and months slip into years and one day, You're a fat ugly guy. It feels to you as if a big inflated tire is tied around your belly making you look so ugly. Then you start blaming all the people who were behind it, slipping again into that comfortable couch loaded with piles of pizzas and endless cans of coke.

And then, you welcome yourself to "Lazy Land". How does it feel to live in here? Terrible? Yes, undoubtedly.

 So you are spending endless days in front of your TV or the PlayStation and enjoying your pizzas, dude, Is that what life is? I know you'll say to me "Prateek, hell yes! That is life" and in saying this, somewhere down the line you're insecure. You're afraid to be out in the world and play your part. You're a coward. Many times our egos are the curtains to hide our insecurities and that is exactly what you're doing. If you call your couch as the most comfortable place in the world, then please get up and take a whiff of reality, because that's not what's gonna be there in your life always. That is not gonna be the medium to pay your bills.

I know a friend of mine who used to do this all day, I said him a few words and they were harsh, rude and blunt. We didn't talk for many months for the words I said to him, hurt him badly but those were the injections to his self-esteem. And he's doing pretty well in his life now. What I said to him was "R, dude what are you doing? Are you a human or a dog? A real human being works hard to earn his bread whereas a street dog just eats up whatever is thrown towards him which is mostly the leftovers of others. Who are you? I see no difference between you and the dog. You are living on your parent's checks" and then damn! He was hit. Hit like a bullet straight in his heart. I wanted to do that only. But yes, that talk changed him for life. Look at him now and he's much fitter than me! Look at this diagram below and it might give you some realistic idea about what your laziness is doing up to you.

I know I am a bit blunt in this blog post but I just have to. For your betterment. Your fitness levels showcase your mental levels to the world. Like we took the example of a girl earlier, a girl will only like you if she sees that you do take care of your health. Eating up those pizzas now is enjoying, why so? Because your parents are paying the bills. After your parents are gone who will then pay the bills of your pizzas? Ignorance isn't the solution here, awareness is.Laziness very often breeds procrastination, which is the primary reason why average people remain average all their lives. 

Deep inside we all have a longing to realize our truest potential. We all want to change the world. We all want to drive great expensive cars. We all want to live in big houses. We all want to be millionaires. But all this can't just happen with a snap! It takes hard work and dedication. 

By shedding up all the habits that make you lazy, by transcending that "lazy feel", by giving yourself constant motivation that you have to make your today better than your yesterday, you'll automatically set yourself up to win. You'll discover more amazing stuff in the world. You'll see that your PlayStation or the movie can't give you that much happiness than making yourself work harder every day to strive for your aspirations. Once the couch that felt comfortable while playing on your PlayStation will now seem to you like the most uncomfortable place. And why will this happen?because you'll realize that your couch was just a sneaky little tiny hole where you hide from the reality of the world as if it never existed.

 There's no wrong in playing games on PlayStation as well,  do it, but with regard to time. I myself love playing games. But don't play them that often. 

Now I leave you with another question...

EITHER FEED YOUR MIND WITH ALL THE EXCUSES OR FEED YOUR MIND WITH PASSION, DEDICATION, AND WILLPOWER TO STRUGGLE.

Results do vary on both the sides.

YOUR FITNESS IS 100% MENTAL, YOUR BODY WON’T GO, WHERE YOUR MIND WON’T PUSH IT.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy. Stay active.