Why People Give Up So Easily?

The moment we come across a new project at work or any other responsible job is assigned to us, we feel enthused with the fact that it will make our life interesting, challenging and will motivate us to bring on our A-game to the table.

Some of us, gradually, feel the drudgery and all the intoxicating fire in the belly which was alive in the initial days starts wearing out. Odds are that each one of us has been in the shoes of that ‘some of us’ and have experienced the same.

With near to zero motivation, about to die interest and merely surviving confidence in the project/work assigned to us, we give it up. If the project has some direct connection with the daily bread and butter, then only we dare to complete it.

So, what’s the real factor behind such mentality? Why does this ever happen? Is there any solution for this?

Below I’ve listed out some of the very crucial reasons which will surely help you in knowing the reasons that why do we give up and to own the legendary seed dormant inside of you and be out there showcasing your WOW level genius to the world.

Here we go. . .

1.       We Magnify Challenges Too Much and Too Often.

After setting up the desired goal, we immediately start working towards its attainment. The gorgeous path of success then starts posing the ever-so-beautiful challenges in front of us, which we look upon as threats to our comfort zones, instead as an opportunity to seize.

This happens solely because of the fact that we start magnifying our challenges/problems/struggles too much and too often. All the while, when this “Degree of Doubt” is far bigger than the degree of self-belief, which ultimately forces us to give up.

This phenomenon takes birth again when we start thinking about what others might say/ think. Hence, when we start spending more time with the “Degree of Doubt” we happen to forget to grow our self-belief and thus commit the crime of self- sabotage.

We not only deny ourselves from the confidence of after-completion success but also from the glorious future and marvelous opportunities ahead of it.

2.       We Forget The Art of Perseverance.

The Masters are cut from different cloth?  à  NO!
They’ve got some superpower to focus for long grueling hours?  à NO!
That’s what makes them great? à YES!!!

Abe Lincoln, Edison, Henry Ford, Steve Jobs, Gates, Musk, You, Me, Everyone. We all have same physical features. Difference starts showing its signs when we look deeper and find out that it’s nothing but the art of persevering which aptly defines why someone is at a higher point today. (This is not judgment, just personal observation.) :)

Why we give up is because we presume ourselves to be so tiny in front of the huge goals we set for ourselves. We should breakdown the goals into smaller yet measurable milestones for the progress gets measured and course corrections could be made accordingly. [BONUS POINT : Add a reward for each milestone achieved. This will surely ease up your stress nerves.]

3.       The Grass Always Seems Greener On The Other Side.

When troubles give us their first peek-a-boo, we get jittery and look sideways, staring at the competition working hard and this discourages even more.

Now, you the reader, would you please tell me the name of one company which laid its 10 year action plan and worked according to that same plan and got its results? Well, chances are NONE!

“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.Delicious Ambiguity.” ― GILDA RADNER

Looking into the competitor’s strategy is okay for business POV, but yes, copying them is a sin.

In a nutshell, run your own race.

4.       Holding On To “Failure Tag” for too long.

This is something that kills the productivity and enthusiasm in most. We fail at some point and someone says, “You’re a failure.” So, instead of taking it proactively we react to it and keep rewinding playing the same roll again and again in our minds. Next whenever you hear that line, BANG comes the same reel again.

Stop this activity. You’re definitely NOT what people judge you as.

5.       We Want Outcome More Than The Willingness To Put In The Effort To Learn Skills Or Put In Those Study Years .

Instant noodles. Order and self serve joints. Technology has surely been a nitrous to our slow world but it has made us humans greedy and desperate to want things ASAP.  We aren’t much ready to put in those hard study years to go through the subject, acquire a lot of specialized knowledge and then brainstorm the market with our concepts, vision and actions. We want things now, this instant. And nothing makes matters worse than this.

6.       The Magic Ingredient is Missing in Most of Us.

SELF BELIEF
Main course is served.

Previously what you had were just the starters my love. ;)

The most overused but brutally true cliché is that people don’t believe in themselves to such gargantuan degrees in order to overshadow their “Degree of Doubt.”

We all have to go through our own set of challenging and arduous goals. Different goals call for different paths which obviously contain a variety of tough challenges, but they’re not the points to give up.

Imagine you’re driving in the night. Can you see the destination point from where you’re standing? NO. Then why do you expect life to not give you any hardships?

Start the car. Switch on the lights. Trust the process. As you move the light also moves with you. So the key is to keep moving. Have faith in yourself and in God (Infinite Intelligence) up there.

Challenges are meant to make us climb the summit again and again. I think not giving in is also an art to learn. ;)

Remember, those who persevere are winners. It’s the hard, grueling, weary climb that makes the experience of standing on the mountain top beautiful and worthwhile.
HUG YOUR GOALS. Never let them go. After all, what are we without them, just a handful of meaningless dirt. :)

I hope my ideas have served you with their fullest of potential.

I would love to know your views as well, so please drop a comment below.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

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6 Simple Steps to Fight through Failure due to Lack of Motivation, Depression and Laziness... And Become SUCCESSFUL !

1.    Make Your Mind Toxic Free.
Many people these days are stuck in the toxicity of the world. Either it is some latest negative news or it is too much exposure to TV that makes them negative preachers. So, first and foremost, get rid of such people. These might be your best friends or your colleagues, whoever they are, get away from them as much as you can. “YOU BECOME LIKE THE 5 PEOPLE YOU SPEND MOST OF YOUR TIME WITH” - JIM ROHN

2.    Kick out.

Yep, kick out all the negative thinking patterns and the activities you earlier had yourself surrounded with. My friend, these things are more or less like a black hole, more and more you fall into it, the difficult it becomes for you to get out of them. Or let me ask you a question. ARE YOUR NEGATIVE HABITS GIVING YOU ANY RETURN ON THE TIME YOU INVEST IN THEM ? If not, then why continue them ? DO yourself a favor and stop them right away.

 

3.    Are you playing the “BLAME GAME” ?

Are you one of those people who sit there and put the blame on others instead of getting up and owning the mistake. If you are, then buddy, who are you tricking? YOU are tricking yourself into failure if you are doing this. Some day the failure will catch up on you which will then bring with itself more pain, guilty and depression. So, instead of this, why not get up, say that yes it is your fault, own it and then devote yourself to changing it ? There will be nothing more nobler than that in life.

4.    Get superbly careful about your priorities.

Do you know what are your top 3 priorities in life ? If not, then i guess here is the problem. Sit down. Make some time and think deeply about what are those top 3 or 5 things you want your life to revolve around ? These things should not only be your daily work but should also be your passions. And when you end up with those 3 or 5 things all you have to do is make sure that your life revolves around them only. Not just one day, not just one week but for about 3 months, because after that you won’t feel the urge to get back to being lazy.

5.    Envision yourself as successful, the first thing in the morning and last in the night. See yourself grow as a beautiful person with boundless courage, relentless devotion to your craft and a never ending hunger to make yourself a better person in the world. I have always used this beautiful line to motivate myself which, with deep respect, i would like to offer to you. Whenever you feel like getting back to laziness and you feel that you are slipping into depression mode again, ask yourself “WHAT WOULD THE SUCCESSFUL VERSION OF ME DO IN SUCH A SITUATION ? WOULD HE SIT HERE CRY AND BLAME OTHERS OR GET UP, ROLL HIS SLEEVES AND SHOW THE WORLD WHAT TRUE MAN HE IS ?”

6.    Have Faith in yourself. You are the master of your mind. Not the other way round and whenever the life knocks you down, get up, dust yourself and say “IS THIS ALL YOU GOT ?” Smile. Look into the eyes of your failure and then nail it with deep courage and confidence.

Everything will be alright. Just read these pointers again and again in life and make yourself repeat, that you are meant for nothing shorter than your dreams. ! All YOUR DREAMS ARE WAITING FOR YOU. ARE YOU WILLING TO FIGHT THROUGH THE PAIN AND MAKE IT? 

Till next time. 

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy. 

Why is it that Successful people are more prone to failure?

Nothing fails like success. I believe this is the line that sums up the issue in your head while you first read this topic.

I basically got this idea from a local shop in my neighborhood.

The shopkeeper used to be a nice guy when the shop was small. He only kept a few items. Always used to greet us nicely and we regularly went to him for buying our day to day items not because there was only that shop in the market, but because of the shopkeeper's kind nature and a good sense of humor.

Soon the shop grew in its popularity and slowly the shop turned into a big supermarket. That guy is still the owner of that store. But I don't prefer going there now. Not even any of my friends go there.

Why so?

Because obviously, the shop has more of products now, but it now lacks that personal human touch it used to have. That same guy now takes the product from us, never greets us and if we happen to greet him, he never replies with a smile. Takes our product, scans it, takes the money and gives it to us. All this action happens very mutely. No “Hi” or “Hellos” and no “Thank You”.

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After a few days of that incident, a new small shop opened up in front of that store, and that new shopkeeper has more customers in a day as compared to the store!

From this incident only I got this idea to write something about why the successful people are sometimes most prone to failure than the average ones. It seems very cruel from a distant view to see that if someone has achieved success after going through so much hardship, then why does God not let him enjoy the success? In such a situation we do start blaming god. I suggest here to look closely. Magnify into the reasons and life of that person and you'll see one of these following traits that had led to his/her failure.  So let's get right into it.

1)   SUCCESS MEANS A STOP TO THEM!

Some people think that when their businesses have reached a global or an international level, it seems so easy to float on this success and there is no need to work hard further. But this is “SO UNTRUE”.

The cause of this is that, being international means your brand is now having a responsibility to serve and nurture your clients in new and exciting ways. What differentiates a successful business from an unsuccessful one is that the successful one always treats their customers like a small child. And why do they do that?

Because each and every small child wants a new toy, a new chocolate, a new game every few days, if it doesn't then he will shift to another shop.

Same way are your customers or your teammates or your children or your students. You have to BREAK THE MONOTONY.

Give your customers a new exciting experience every few days and they will do nothing but love you and your brand more than ever!

2)   THEY FORGET THAT SUCCESS IS A JOURNEY.

Every successful failure thought that success is some sort of a destination to reach. Instead, success is more or less like a good song played with the guitar. Imagine each of your little wins as a stroke or a note of the guitar being played. Your life is that guitar here. You strike up a deal in that business meeting, you hit one note properly. You have made two strangers smile today, congratulations you have just hit two notes properly. You have forgiven someone for doing wrong to you, excellent! , you have yet again hit one note properly.

So keep on hitting the guitar of your life with each and every bit in the proper way so that when you die you know you have created a great song. A song for others to remember and repeat it in their lives, till eternity. That's called as success ! That's why the cliché "success is a journey, not a destination" is so true.

3)   PERSONAL BOND VS PROFESSIONAL BUSINESS

 Bond over the business. Is what successful people do. Business over bond is what takes success to failure. And all it takes is just those few seconds when you might have lifted the world with your greatness.

I remember reading somewhere that Art Papas, the founder and CEO of Bullhorn saying this "I always welcome any new customers or suppliers in our lobby. I stop, say hello and ask if they would like to have a coffee. We started this long time back when we were just a small company and we didn't even have a receptionist back then. Now I see each of our employee doing it. It seems to be deeply seated in our work environment and feels to us like a culture."

Now you tell me, wouldn't such a sweet act of gratitude be enjoyed by the customers? Of course, it would. Customers don't just need services now, they need "better services with genuine smiles" now.

4)   WHERE HAS THE KIND HEART GONE ?

As I was sharing about that local shop which turned out to be a successful failure in front of me, I learned one important lesson from it. That many times people let success rule their hearts and minds both. Success is more or less like an illusion. Competition is still there. The battle is still going on. Success just gives them a small time frame to take a nap. And that is when competitors come hunting and turn that success into a page in history. If that particular storekeeper would have cracked jokes like earlier times, he would have never left the loyalty of his customers. That is so because "customers will give you loyalty if you happen to treat them as a royalty".

Take the Ferrari cars for example and why does it take so much time to build one ? Because with the hard work and labor, the car makers put their love in those cars they produce. Each of their cars defines the love put in it, each of the Ferrari car glorifies the relentless devotion of the Italians to make it truly speak "Italian made".

Now let me ask you this. Is what you are doing currently speaking and I mean speaking, is it really speaking YOUR NAME ?

I so strongly believe that your craft should speak your name as if it is engraved on it. It will last long, much longer than your autographs.

Don't just let your death be a number in the register of census showing death tolls during that particular year, make it count for living a magnificently remarkable well-lived life.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.