How to be the real YOU ? (Part 2 of 4)

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STEP – 2: What do you focus on in your life?

We spend our days, we spend our nights, we spend our weeks, we spend our months. And then one fine day we realize that the time has just gone by like a blow of air. But the matter of fact is that we felt it but we didn’t realize it and now still a few dreams have been achieved and most of them have remain unfulfilled. Believe me, this feels the worst to see your half of the list of dreams as unfulfilled.

By no means am I saying that you should spend your life, chasing all the material pleasures. The word I want to bring your focus on is the word FOCUS itself. What you focus on in your life grows. If you focus on happiness it will grow. You focus on negativity that is what you’ll reap at the end.

Many people I’ve met, say “The reason I am so annoying and angry all the time is because the world talks in an annoying way to me” or some say “life has always thrown the worst at me, that’s why am like this”. Yes, I do understand that your children might not be listening to you at times and this is the moment when you get angry. Yes, I understand that your colleagues and your subordinates don’t listen to you or they behave weirdly to you. Yes, I understand that you might be going through some difficult phases in life that make you feel to just go to that single person and yell everything that is blocking your days and thoughts. But I strongly believe that these people and these circumstances can influence you or do harm to you only and only if you allow them to do the same. 

You are the one who is giving them the power. Okay, your kids don’t listen to you, might be this is the test of your patience. Okay that your subordinates don’t listen to you, instead of shouting try loving them more and then see the magic. The magic of love can not be matched to anything else in the world.

For those who still think that this language of love won’t work on those people around you, please do a simple exercise. 

Place a mirror before you. Try making different faces like crying, smiling, annoyed, happy and now, make your angry face and shout at the other person in front of you thinking it's your subordinate/child. Did you see what they see in you at that time? Anger makes a normal human being a beast.

So, my dear friend, this world isn’t bad it's you who’s bad. And if the world is good then also my dear it's you! You is the whole world. The world is you. What you throw in the water gets reflected to you in repercussions.

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How to be the real YOU ? (Part 1 of 4)

So the process of how to be the real you starts with this simple step.

STEP - 1: Defining yourself, that who you are?

There is something very funny about us humans. Whenever we’re said to talk or explain about someone else on the earth that we know, without even wasting a second we start explaining that person from our own respective point of views. But if the same question is asked again replacing the word “someone else” with “you” the same person who spoke at length about someone else, he’s now silent !!!Void ! No sound!

Why this happens that we are not able to describe ourselves in such a transparent manner, that we use that same transparent glass to look at the other person and assess him according to our own beliefs? 

Why does this happen that we have to think a lot to even describe ourselves in one ten line paragraph and we don’t even need a second to think and write about someone else that we know? 

Why do our minds need hard thinking to think about ourselves?

And Why do so easily thoughts flow into our minds when we’re said to speak about someone else? Why does this all happen anyway?

One simple answer for this is that the same way in which we assess others we usually don’t assess ourselves in the same way. Let’s do a small fun exercise. 

Write down the weak points of 5 people you know very well. Make short points. Take maximum 5 minutes for this exercise giving each minute to each separate person. Done? Now, on the same page please note down your own weaknesses. Can You? I guess you won’t be. Many people who are posed with this question are stuck. For some strange reason, we can’t do that. We are so much obsessed with the habit of blaming and ill-treating others that our minds, that we have become habitual to it. And when we ask our minds to say something about ourselves it has no answer. Yes, no answer comes up in the mind because we don’t even spend a few minutes to study ourselves and note down our own weaknesses and strengths. This is the reason that why am here to help you out. This is the one reason why this blog is here, enlightenment. Enlightenment of the inner you. Enlightenment of the genius in you. Enlightenment of the best version of yourself.

Now what I want you to note down, are your own strengths and weaknesses. But please, first of all, note down your own strengths and then your weaknesses. Yes, it will be difficult to note down your own weaknesses and bad habits. But, transformation of the world starts from one single man. All the great leaders till date had one thing in common, they were the fearless, powerful, determined titans of their fields. They all first motivated themselves that they can do it, then the world followed them. So, take the lead, start today and the world will follow you.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy. 

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How to be the real YOU ?

Hello ! 

First of all, before we start talking about the matter that how to be the real you, I would like to pose a very profoundly simple yet a simply profound question in front of you.

How do you define yourself right now? 

Are you really being the real you?

Are you still that much excited and happy and cheerful that you were in the childhood? 

Where are your dreams that you had when you were a small child? Are you still having those dreams in your mind and are equally excited as you were in the childhood?

Obviously, we all are different,  so our reviews to these questions will be individual. I don’t demand an answer from you on this. You are your own biggest teacher and your own mightiest critic. Now I would like to suggest to you that you are very much human. Every one of us has millions of faults and millions of good things. If still you feel that you are having the worst problems in the world and they can’t be solved by anyone, then I request you to answer my this question. Are your problems bigger than the earth and the million of galaxies surrounding you? No? Then why to worry. 

Yes, they can be solved and they will be solved. Let the time do some magic for you. Many times we don’t know that from where the so-called “God Element” will enter your life and just whoosh away all your problems in your life with a magic wand. The only thing you need to focus is being the real you.

 God is a very choosy person. He doesn’t support or be there for those people who are always being fake. He is always behind those folks who know who they are and what they want in life. If you don’t know what you want from your life and where you’re going, then how will God know where to take you?

He isn’t the path giver, he’s the path clearer. He isn’t the lamp holder, he’s the guy who is holding the oil for the lamplighter. You are the person who is holding the lamplighter.

 You need to be the best version of you because of many reasons. The first and the foremost reason that why we need to be  the best version of ourselves is this: - TO HAVE AN IMPACT.

Impact, a very small word yet a deep meaning in it. Impact, in many instances, gets originated from competition among two individuals, where both of them try to have a bigger area of operation than his counterpart. I feel that this question has been in the air since the first time the human age got birth. And why should we not be having this question in our minds? If god never wanted us to feel the urge to be the best among all and to have an impact then he would have never given us the power to think this way. We all want to have an impact in our lives. We all want to be remembered when we’re gone because one day the BMW guy  will get buried next to the beggar and guess what, nobody would even give a damn. Am sorry for being a bit offensive but that is the truth of life. People only remember those who sacrificed something to gain the popularity they enjoy today. It just doesn’t take a fortnight to become a star in the eyes of the masses. Take anyone that you think about. Be it Madonna, or Lady Gaga, Pablo Picasso, Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi or Messi. Few days back I read an interview of Messi and he said in the interview that the only reason he is a success is because he is a hard worker. In that interview he said “It took me 11 years of rigorous hard work to be the star that I am today”, he was 17 yrs of age when he gave his first debut.

You see, Messi knew where he wanted to go in his life from the starting itself, he had the determination and discipline and god continuously put the oil in his lamp. The only way to be the best version of yourself is by doing some introspection. Because when you’ll go deeply inside yourself you’ll see that you’ve a lot of qualities and faults. And believe me, it's very much normal because the only person who has no faults lies in the grave.

Ironical, Isn’t it? But that’s LIFE.  

So let’s start our journey from here itself. So, smile. Sit back. Let me have the opportunity to serve you with my ideas. Following this blog post, I'll be sharing with you 4 game-changing tips to amp up your game. Will be back soon !