Hello! I hope all are doing well and hunting down your
dreams every day. In my earlier blog post, I shared with you an example that
how EQ is different from IQ.
We most probably are pretty much aware now that the EQ is
much more important than the IQ. All the major companies around the globe do
want their workforce to have a strong IQ but from past few decades, this trend
has been changing. Every organization now wants to employ those candidates who
qualify in IQ test but also stand par excellence to others. In the managerial
levels as well, it is seen that the managers who have strong EQ tend to move up
the organizational ladder much faster than their contemporaries. Emotional
Intelligence is very much different from academic intelligence. Many who are
book smart face difficulties in dealing with complex life situations in future
just because they forget about strengthening their emotional intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence is simply referred to as the ability
of which one can remain poised, serene and calm amidst various troubles
happening in his/ her life. It can also be defined as the ability of a person
to be stable inside when the outside seems to have fallen apart.
So how do we make our EQ stronger?
I suggest you, the following tips to focus on for a few days
to make yourself much stronger in EQ than others. Before reading below just
remember this formula:-
EQ = SELF WORTH
I’ll explain later why I have put this formula for you to
consider.
1) Give Love to yourself.
Many times it happens that we give love to others to such a
great extent, be it in an imagination or in an outer world, that we ourselves
make us empty from inside. This habit of loving others than they love you back
should only be adopted if your own cup is filled to the full.
2) Practice the wonderful habit of gratitude.
We don’t need all that money to be happy. Do we? We don’t
even need to have a super luxury car to make ourselves happy. Yes, these
material things are important in life and they do add to the spice in life. But
many times we forget about saying”Thank You” for what we have. If you have a
loving family, you are blessed. If you have food on your table, feel blessed.
If you have a roof over your head and two eyes to read this blog post, you are
truly blessed. Many don’t even have this privilege.
3) Expect less.
Expectations are big culprits in robbing us off from our
self-worth. It does feel bad when someone whom we cared a lot doesn’t give us
back that same love and care. Read my blog post (titled : Why do we get hurt) to know more on this point. A simple rule to follow:
Other than those who care for you, give what you get from them. That is a sure
way to make yourself stand for yourself in times of difficulties. Letting people
walk over you isn’t what true leaders do. They are friendly, yet super firm and
deeply connected to their core values, of which self-worth comes among the most
important ones.
4) Burn out all past hurts and worries.
Bruce Lee used to
apply this technique during his tough times. He always used to write down his
worries on a piece of paper and then burn up that paper. According to him, that
burning paper would make him feel as if his worries and tensions are getting
burned. This technique has helped me innumerable times to get past all negative
emotions and exude passion and vitality in the world around me.
5) Spend Alone Time.
For an hour every week, be alone. Switch off your cell
phones. Go away from your family. Be very, very hard to reach. Shut out all
noises to listen to the voice within you. Be alone for some hours. You can
either go to a coffee shop or sit down on a bench in a park. Now rest your mind
there. Think about your dreams. Think of yourself as a businessman and get into
deep thinking mode to reflect on your ways of doing things and ask yourself if
they are in line with your dreams or not. In this deep abyss of self-love, you
will figure out who you truly are and what you are meant to be in life. Trust
me, you will grow exponentially, you’ll figure out what actually gives you that
adrenaline rush, you’ll discover your innate talents, you’ll experience true
bliss after this exercise. You will then develop your own crystal clear clarity with which you will gift yourself the most
beautiful gift of having a pristine mindset.
6)
Last, but by no means the least, Dedicate
yourself to something higher than just living your days. Serve the
humanity. Discover your talents. Dedicate yourself to making this work a better
place than you found it and if you cannot do it, will your living make any
difference? Leave behind a legacy. Be kind to strangers. Respect humanity.
Smile at your colleagues. Make a new friend every day. In the end, all that
matters is how kind your heart truly is.
These were the Super Six that will lift you up in your EQ.
Remember that formula?
Revisit it and connect that formula to each one of these
points, you’ll notice that how our Emotional Quotient is directly connected to
our Self Worth.
Hope my ideas will provide you with some beautiful changes to
make into your daily habits. DO them. Revisit this blog post as many times you
feel the need of the push. Am here for you always.
Dream. Dare. Shine.
Till next time.
Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.
