How to make your EQ stronger ??? [EQ Vs IQ (Part 2 of 2)]

[Read : EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2) ]

Hello! I hope all are doing well and hunting down your dreams every day. In my earlier blog post, I shared with you an example that how EQ is different from IQ.

We most probably are pretty much aware now that the EQ is much more important than the IQ. All the major companies around the globe do want their workforce to have a strong IQ but from past few decades, this trend has been changing. Every organization now wants to employ those candidates who qualify in IQ test but also stand par excellence to others. In the managerial levels as well, it is seen that the managers who have strong EQ tend to move up the organizational ladder much faster than their contemporaries. Emotional Intelligence is very much different from academic intelligence. Many who are book smart face difficulties in dealing with complex life situations in future just because they forget about strengthening their emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence is simply referred to as the ability of which one can remain poised, serene and calm amidst various troubles happening in his/ her life. It can also be defined as the ability of a person to be stable inside when the outside seems to have fallen apart.

So how do we make our EQ stronger?

I suggest you, the following tips to focus on for a few days to make yourself much stronger in EQ than others. Before reading below just remember this formula:-

      EQ = SELF WORTH

I’ll explain later why I have put this formula for you to consider.

1)    Give Love to yourself.

Many times it happens that we give love to others to such a great extent, be it in an imagination or in an outer world, that we ourselves make us empty from inside. This habit of loving others than they love you back should only be adopted if your own cup is filled to the full.

2)    Practice the wonderful habit of gratitude.

We don’t need all that money to be happy. Do we? We don’t even need to have a super luxury car to make ourselves happy. Yes, these material things are important in life and they do add to the spice in life. But many times we forget about saying”Thank You” for what we have. If you have a loving family, you are blessed. If you have food on your table, feel blessed. If you have a roof over your head and two eyes to read this blog post, you are truly blessed. Many don’t even have this privilege.

3)    Expect less.

Expectations are big culprits in robbing us off from our self-worth. It does feel bad when someone whom we cared a lot doesn’t give us back that same love and care. Read my blog post (titled : Why do we get hurt) to know more on this point. A simple rule to follow: Other than those who care for you, give what you get from them. That is a sure way to make yourself stand for yourself in times of difficulties. Letting people walk over you isn’t what true leaders do. They are friendly, yet super firm and deeply connected to their core values, of which self-worth comes among the most important ones.

4)    Burn out all past hurts and worries.

  Bruce Lee used to apply this technique during his tough times. He always used to write down his worries on a piece of paper and then burn up that paper. According to him, that burning paper would make him feel as if his worries and tensions are getting burned. This technique has helped me innumerable times to get past all negative emotions and exude passion and vitality in the world around me.

5)    Spend Alone Time.

For an hour every week, be alone. Switch off your cell phones. Go away from your family. Be very, very hard to reach. Shut out all noises to listen to the voice within you. Be alone for some hours. You can either go to a coffee shop or sit down on a bench in a park. Now rest your mind there. Think about your dreams. Think of yourself as a businessman and get into deep thinking mode to reflect on your ways of doing things and ask yourself if they are in line with your dreams or not. In this deep abyss of self-love, you will figure out who you truly are and what you are meant to be in life. Trust me, you will grow exponentially, you’ll figure out what actually gives you that adrenaline rush, you’ll discover your innate talents, you’ll experience true bliss after this exercise. You will then develop your own crystal clear clarity with which you will gift yourself the most beautiful gift of having a pristine mindset. 

6)    Last, but by no means the least, Dedicate yourself to something higher than just living your days. Serve the humanity. Discover your talents. Dedicate yourself to making this work a better place than you found it and if you cannot do it, will your living make any difference? Leave behind a legacy. Be kind to strangers. Respect humanity. Smile at your colleagues. Make a new friend every day. In the end, all that matters is how kind your heart truly is.

These were the Super Six that will lift you up in your EQ.

Remember that formula?

Revisit it and connect that formula to each one of these points, you’ll notice that how our Emotional Quotient is directly connected to our Self Worth.

Hope my ideas will provide you with some beautiful changes to make into your daily habits. DO them. Revisit this blog post as many times you feel the need of the push. Am here for you always.

Dream. Dare. Shine.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

What is LIFE ?

Our life is the biggest blessing given to us by the Almighty. Yet we don't know the reason why we are here and what purpose do we have? Yet many people spend their lives watching television in a subdivision and then complain of never achieving their dreams.

I believe that if you'll spend the whole of your life fretting about the problems, you'll never be able to achieve your aspirations. And that is not the real meaning of life. The real meaning of life lies in the secret of discovering who  you truly are and the reason, the mission, the vision you hold in your mind to make the dreams come true that are so very much close to your heart.

I believe life isn't a popularity contest or a competition, and it ain't even a rat race. This dogma is old. I believe that life is a challenge. But against yourself. 

Life means an act. An act of living with some solid purpose to leave the world a better place than you found it. And if you cannot do this. You're not fit to live.

Life means being in competition against yourself each and every moment of your life. Life means giving yourself the opportunity to serve others. Life means throwing away all the past hurts and living your life afresh because you just never know when it will be your last day. Life means being in sync with your deepest values and ethics. Life means working hard each and every time you face up a challenge. Life means getting back up every time you get knocked down. Life means, the moment you're drowned in your own sweat, blood, and dust and still... looking in the eye of the challenge and saying... " That's the best you can do? " and giving it a hell of a punch in the face. Life means giving yourself the freedom to be the child at heart sometimes. Life means having traits like kindness, care, and love imbibed in your DNA. Life means putting a smile on the face of a stranger. (myself done this many times, feels good) Life means giving up something you love for someone you love because you care more about the person than the product itself.

Life means showing leadership in the rough times. Life means giving out the best when the world expects the least from you. Life means expressing your innate love for your talents to the world and astonishing it. Life means being so exceptional in the world you're trying to create and the life you're trying to live that the world just has to salute YOU. Life means expressing your genius in your field of endeavor that you rise from being a professional to a legend and the world has no other option but to give you a standing ovation.

Well, that's life :)

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy. 

L  :- Live 

I   :- It

F  :- Fully

E  :- Extraordinarily 

Victim Vs Victor

Let me start this conversation of ours with a simple question to you. What does this word "WINNING" bring into your mind?

Success, happiness, freedom, top of the world feeling etc , all of us like winning don't we? We all like being called as winners. It feels good when people make us feel special. It feels great when we are celebrated or when our success is celebrated.

But sometimes we do see that some people like winning by wrong means. These are the people, am sure, you're surrounded with and so am I. These people like winning, it doesn't matter to them if they are putting their foot on other people's heads to go above them, the only thing they want is success and they are going to get it by hook or by crook. These people are very shrewd and very cunning. They know how to manipulate the minds of others and make others work for them. Some of the traits of such people include :-

ü They're best liars

ü They are highly manipulative

ü Success goes to their minds

ü If they win, everyone is a lower class person to them

ü They treat others badly and call them by foul names

ü They are the best description of "attention seeker" word

ü They get joyous at small wins

ü Whenever they see any difficult task they automatically give it the tag of impossible.

ü They talk dirty. They use the language of the victim.

ü They are the negative parasites roaming around in the world.

ü They pull down others who are going up in life, they make a rope from such people and use this rope to get themselves up to the success while on their way they keep on pinching others.

ü For such people, success means everything. Human values are an alien topic to them.

ü They make others happy by having fun with them and on their backs, they criticize them.

ü They are the hidden sweetest haters. They hate you and still be sweet and try to pull you down. (Let me tell you, they are very sweet, you won't know when it's poison they're giving you instead of honey. Please be aware of them. If you want I'll give you a blog post on how to identify such people)

ü They love this formula Other's hard workàcheatingàmy incomeàmy profit

ü They spread out negativity specifically because they can't see competitors among their colleagues.

ü From the above point only you can guess T\that yes, they are insecure from inside.

ü There is a large black hole of emptiness inside them.

ü They talk more, do less.

ü They spend time on useless activities.

ü Do you want to know what's going around ? Spend 5 minutes with them and you'll get what you want. They're the biggest gossipers.

ü And the main point, they have two best friends named excuses and procrastination.

ü They know how to spend their most productive days in the most unproductive manner. They're masters at it.

ü They love entertainment.

ü They show respect.

ü They have big TVs.

ü  They waste their days. So their lives!

And, these people are not real leaders they are pseudo leaders. They are the best examples of window dressing. They show themselves as some superior beings but when you look inside of them, they're empty.

Now let me introduce you to another breed of human beings. Noticing such people is very difficult. You can't find them very easily. They are the rare species who are not blessed with anything special, they look like us, they eat the same food like us, they just breath something with oxygen, and that thing is Passion. The passion for winning the world. The passion to prove their mettle. The passion for showing the world what actually they're made of. I refer to them as the Victors! 

The men who have always chased victory. I know this sounds very exciting. Do You want to know what are the qualities of such people? Welcome aboard! Here starts the list :-

ü They're honest.

ü They believe in being transparent.

ü Success goes to their hearts because they already know that it is just the beginning. 

ü If they win, they try to make others win as well.

ü They give respect to all. Be it the CEO or the gatekeeper. after all, we all end up being dust.

ü They are the best examples of “practice makes a man perfect”.

ü They do get joyous at small wins but do keep in mind their final goals.

ü The impossible tag doesn't work on them. They have some strange goggles to see the possible behind what's impossible.

ü They talk the language of the genius. They talk the language of the elite.

ü They are the guys who spread smiles wherever they go.

ü They do face criticism but they never pull people down. Because they know that all great people in the history have had good relationships. They know that network is more important than net worth.

ü Their very definition of success starts from human values.

ü They are worst back biters. All they believe in is to praise someone on the face or if it's about making the other person realize his mistake, they do this on the face only.

ü They are the best life lovers! They love everyone around them. No matter who it is. If it's a living being, they love it. That's their simple formula

ü Their formula is :- My hard workàMy profitàMy success.

ü They radiate positivity. Positivity just flows out of them wherever they go.

ü They are in control. Neither introvert nor extrovert.

ü There is a deep ocean of courage inside them.

ü They do more, talk less.

ü They only spend their time on useful activities.

ü They hate gossips. There is a huge difference between gossiping and talking. They talk. They don't gossip. They talk clean. They don't talk dirty.

ü They have a lot of best friends, among them a few are patience, passion, courage, conviction etc

ü They call it a day only if it has been productive.

ü They love education.

ü They give respect. Giving is by heart. Showing is just fake.

ü They have BIG libraries without which they cannot survive.

So there you see, there are two different breeds in the society. Now it depends upon you. Which side do you reside?

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.