How to stay happy in every situation we face ?

Happiness is a subjective state. Or to simplify it more for you, happiness comes from inside.

There are times when we are feeling miserable and sad, because many times you are trying to find out happiness from your outside world. See, there is no harm in that, we all seek happiness and a good laugh from our peer groups and our close ones, but many times these are the very people who make us sad and gloomy. These are the people who sometimes stab us in the back and hurt us deeply. For this, let me give you a few pointers on how to feel truly happy.

1.    STOP SPENDING A LOT OF TIME WITH YOUR SWEET HATERS.

Yes, you got me right! stop spending a lot of time with those who love you in front of you and when you turn your back, they start criticizing you. Such people don’t deserve your time and love, so leave them alone slowly. With this I mean that, be friends with them but just the Hi or Hellos friends, not more than that.

2.    MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF

Start spending a lot of time with yourself, eat some good pasta alone, be your best companion. I feel this is the truest way to be happy from inside. Love yourself, understand what drives you and motivates you in life. Make the time to analyze what passions you had in the childhood but somewhere got lost, reignite that fire and work towards them! This feel surely make you feel happy.

3.    GIVE YOURSELF A REALITY CHECK EVERY SUNDAY NIGHT

Every Sunday night, as you are going to sleep, for a few minutes, take your journal out, think about how well you performed during that week, how many good laughter did you share and how many times did you rise yourself up from the negativity of the world. Give yourself a check for this. By doing this, you will be feeling more alive and more energized during your life. And if you don’t feel you have lived upto that level, make it a resolution to be more happy next week ! Seems like an interesting game, isn’t it?

 

4.    FIND HAPPINESS INSIDE!!!

I know you won’t believe if I tell you that there is a never ending waterfall of happiness hidden inside of you. Don’t just look onto the faces of others to make you happy, because if you will, one day they will think that you are lonely and sad from inside and will thus leave you. I have seen many people getting attracted to the “happy” people in a room. You know what differentiates between those few and all others ? It is the fact that former produces happiness and the latter just receives it.

Nothing is really bad in this world. It’s all about the lens you are using to view it. For a few days, use my lens by trying out whatever I have shared with you, then come back here and do share with me how you felt.

Let me give you a sneak peek idea, watch Mr. Bean videos whenever you feel sad, it will surely lift up your mood.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

The “Big 7” for de-stressing yourself

We all have our share of happiness to enjoy as well as problems to face. But the tools that we can use, to adjust ourselves in such a way that we get vaccinated from the pain of such times, is just awesome to even read about it! Isn't it? So would you not like to have that inner stronger self to build yourself beautifully from inside that no amount of tensions, struggles can disbalance you?

I know you do. So here are seven pointers I would like to share with you, which you can apply into your life to manage the stress more wisely than ever.

Might be life's lows have bogged you down so very much that, the passionate electricity you once had has vanished due to the burden of the current stressful times. Do yourself a favor and read these points to revolutionize your life completely.

1) JOURNALING

Journaling has been my most effective tool in times of distress.

 Note down whatever is troubling you right now. Might be you have been through a break up with your sweetheart, might be you have gone through a divorce recently or might be you have been ridiculed regularly by your office team mates. Write it down.

Let the fresh paper be your best friend. While you're writing your problems, feel, that you are telling your worries to the most trusted person in the world. Of course, it isn't possible for the people whom you think would be there by your side, to be there always. And might be they will just say plain NO to you and leave you in those dark valleys. But you shouldn't lose hope because you have the ultimate power, the God or the Magical power which is hanging this planet Earth on merely nothing in the air.

I find journaling as the best medium to connect to that higher power. I write down my problems, seek answers and keep on writing and writing until I see an answer before me. Believe me, my dear friend, that power is ready to help you, all you need to do is to ASK for it.

2) EXERCISING

Mind and Body are connected. What mind signals, body does. But, have you ever thought that how do you feel pain ?

When our body feels interrupted and disturbed, it sends signals to our brain which then decide if it's a happy or a sad mood. If it’s a happy mood the brain instructs our body to smile, if it's a sad mood it makes us cry. So, in fact, not only mind is the master of the body, you are the ULTIMATE master of your mind as well. And exercising in stressful times will do just more good than you could possibly think.

Make your body move.

Get up off that couch, put on your running shoes, run as fast as you can and when tired, sit down and ask this question to yourself "The problem that is so much irritating me, will it really count for me after 3 years from now ?"

 I know you'll feel that how silly you were to spend energy on such useless problems which could have been invested on your mighty missions in life.

3) EATING

No matter what problem you are going through just DONT fill your stomach with all that junk food! Obviously, it looks tasty and the researches have proved that the junk foods mostly contain colors like red, yellow and orange that increase the appetite and make you "feel hungry" when you see those foods, even though you are not.

Yes! You should eat those foods, those junk foods too because despite the harm they do to your body, they also sometimes makes us feel happy and lift our moods.

But let me give you a strategy on HOW TO EAT JUNK FOOD so that it does more good than harm to you :-

When you are having your pizza, feel it. Savor the taste of each and every bite. Feel that cheese melting in your mouth. Relinquish that crispiness of the fresh cut capsicum and tomato, feel the taste of that grilled chicken. Enjoy the little sounds of the crispiness of that wonderful crust. Make your heart eat that pizza with your stomach. Dive deep into the exotic herbs and spicy chili flakes. And then with the chilled beer or coke, do the ending part so beautifully!

How did you feel after reading it?

Great?

 Well, that is the true way to eat my friend. To make yourself last longer, eat your every bite as if it is your last.

4) DANCING AND SINGING

We really never had these Big TVs and the awesome PlayStation when the humanity started. Now if you think that there was no stress at that time, you are so damn wrong! Actually, I believe those were the most stressful times.

Why was the wheel invented?
To do away with the stress of traveling.

Why was fire invented?

To do away with the stress of being cold in the winters.

Yes we can say that stress does inspire the great beings on earth to innovate or let me put it this way, that "stress mostly in all cases breeds innovation and growth"

Why was dancing and singing invented? Yup, you got it, to deal away with mental stress.

Don't think about why and how the problem started and what a pathetic end it had, instead, get your speakers on, put on some music that makes you feel happy and then just lose the world in your dance.

5) COOKING

As we were talking about pizza, let's go to its not-so-distant cousin pasta! Now don't tell me you are already drowning in the cheesiness of pizzas and pasta in your dreams!

So, as I was sharing, cooking does provide our senses, the relief we need in times of pressure. As much as relief you felt while eating that pizza above mentioned, just imagine how much enjoying would it be to actually make it  !

Making that pizza base, applying that fresh cheese from the packet, and let me give you a loophole (put some extra cheese on it! If you promise me to shed that up with exercising it out), then cutting that fresh capsicum, juicy tomato etc and then sprinkling them here and there. Adding the pizza paste. Making sure that you add those chilly oh-so-finger-licking spicy spices to it. Then impatiently waiting for the pizza to be ready!

Then when it is ready, slowly sinking the aroma in your senses, ready to eat the pizza with your eyes and then your mouth, couldn't just wait!

Loving the description?

Make it real. You'll feel it.

I feel that is the main reason why the Italians are so happy people. Whatever they make, be it simple pasta that has just the pasta, basil and olive oil, it will seem to you like the best dishes in the world. Why? Because Italian made pasta oozes the love of it.

What I suggest to you here is that make your favorite dish. Serve yourself with something that makes you happy. And why not make something with utmost love for your family?

Feel the food. Feel love.

6) SHARING

In times of tensions, we often neglect the power of sharing. We think that others are themselves busy in their lives and have to deal with their own set of tensions, in doing so we drift ourselves much closer to depression.

Sharing is caring.

If you share your problems with your near ones, they'll support you and give you an idea or a mindset that will change your life. Sometimes we can't notice the opportunity to change the situation knocking at the door to come in, let your near ones open the door for your self-growth and improvement.

7) SMILING

You really thought I wouldn't have this on my list?

Smiling does more good to your mental health than you could ever imagine. Just stretching those few muscles of your face, standing in front of the mirror is enough for lifting your mood. Or maybe your situation is that hard that you cannot smile then I have a solution for you.

Who is the person in your life that you love a lot ? Go to him/ her. Hug them like it's your last. And see their smile. The rest of the problems will eventually be taken care of.

So there you have it. 7 simple habits for changing your mood.

 Am obviously not recommending to apply them all, in the red alert situation, but whenever you are in times of distress, try few of them, as per the intensity of the situation. So, embrace your tensions. Because nothing can grow you better than them!

In the end, I can say only one thing "difficult times do break you down, but to reconstruct you filled with more wisdom, love, care and a sense of self-worth"

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

There has to be a cause

Have you ever asked the three letter word that resembles our curiosity and engages our mind in thinking deeply?

"WHY?"

We all ask this question so many times. In school, we irritated some of our teachers by asking them so many WHYs. We, humans, have the basic tendency to ask about something if we don't understand it completely and to the point we get satisfied.

Observe a small child for an hour. Talk with her. And in that one hour, that little girl will always be asking you “n” numbers of "WHYs". Children are just the passionate hotbeds who couldn't digest a small amount of information.

From the childhood itself, we are accustomed to the habit of asking “WHYs” a lot.

And why do we ask so many "WHYs"?

Because we are looking for the reason. The cause behind what has made this thing turn out the way it has. All of our questions that we ask in our day to day life are to find that cause.

Now let me invite you to consider the fact that we really never ask this question to ourselves daily. Now you would say "why should we ask this question?"

Because you and I, we deserve a better life. We all deserve to live our dreams.

We all deserve to be happy and enjoy the little pleasures with our families.

We all deserve to be at the top of the mountain.
We all deserve to be regarded as the ultimate heavyweight champion of our field.

We all deserve to be among the best human beings who ever walked this planet.

And for this, we need to ask this question daily to ourselves, twice.

Once when you wake up in the morning, to remind you that you have to display your values and shower the world with your love. And secondly, at the night, to make yourself aware that yes, you are contributing to the world in some way. Be it small. But you are.

We all need to hang this question on each of the tasks we do in our day to day lives because what differentiates a great human being from an ordinary one is that, the great one was acutely focused on delivering their best to their clients or customers or to the world as a whole.

All of us are humans. We go through tough times, we go through rough times and we go through very good times as well.

 It's easy to stay positive and on track during easy times, but when the going gets tough, it's the ingrained granular crystal clear vision and definite set of actions that determine if you'll be a success or not. It's not said in vain that "tough times define the true matter of a strong man".

And obviously for designing such set of unique and exquisitely gorgeous habits we need to start from ground level. So, for the ground level, kindly do this simple exercise :-

Take a fresh paper. Divide it into two halves. One approx three times bigger than the other one. Basically, you have to divide that page into 1/4th and another one to be 3/4th of the page.

On the 1/4th one, write down the daily action of yours. And on the other one, write down the "reason" that why you did that.

Put the headings as Action and Cause respectively.

Now as your day passes by just start noting down your each and every activity in the Action side and write down in detail why you did that in the Cause side.

Whatever you do in a day, each second, each minute of your each hour determines your success speed.

So after you have noted down the above-mentioned tool, and have written down your daily acts for one week. On Sunday night, take a look at that particular chart.

And when you are done with that analysis, simply put the line "WHAT'S THE CAUSE OF DOING IT?" Behind each and everything you have noted down on the Cause side.

Make a note of them all. And then ask another profound question to yourself "IS IT TAKING YOU CLOSER TO YOUR DREAMS?"

You'll be astonished to know how much potential you are really wasting.

What's cause behind spending hours in chit chatting with friends?

What's the cause behind going from link to link on YouTube when you have so much work to do?

What's the cause to live life so ordinarily when you know you're meant for greatness?

What's the use of backbiting others and gossiping so much ?

I have myself used this method long time back and it has served me in increasing my productivity and happiness 100X. And I believe we all deserve to be happy and productive. If you are happy you can be productive. And if you start being productive you start feeling happy. And if one stops, so does the other one.

Therefore to be happy and productive, it's very important to assess each and every action of yours so that you are sure it's in line with your dreams. If it isn't a piece that could fit anywhere in your big jigsaw puzzle, simply delete it.

Please apply this simple tool that I have shared with you so that you could reach for those dreams and even fly above those clouds. That is my heartfelt wishes for you and your bright future ahead!

Good luck!

Follow this simple tool and do share your results.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

A valuable lesson to learn from Mr. Bean

I love watching Mr. Bean series. I've actually watched all of the original ones so now am left with only the cartoon version, but it's funny as well!

There are many lessons that we can learn from the character of Mr. Bean.

First of all, Rowan Atkinson is a LEGEND! A true Genius! I think nobody could ever play that character that well, in the whole mankind, the way he has played it so flawlessly. So this blog post is dedicated to his most popular character on screen, Mr. Bean!

The simple and small lesson I've learned from Mr. Bean is that even though he doesn't own a big Lamborghini or a big mansion, he still feels himself as the king of the world. His little green and black car seems like a Rolls Royce to him and his small cozy apartment seems to him like the sweetest place to live on Earth. Never sees challenges as challenges, rather sees them as opportunities and always proves to be clever of the lot! He really knows how to draw happiness worth millions from the tiniest of things. And that is TRUE GREATNESS! If you don't believe me go watch his video on YouTube titled "Mr. Bean in room no. 420" It is one of my favorites! Life seems to throw its challenges to him, but this man! This man always seems to have a solution for everything! Give him a to work as a dentist,he'll do it great ! Besides the fact that you'll end up getting all your teeth filled with medicine! (Hope you have seen his episode of Mr. Bean and the Dentist). And he's the best barber in the town as well ! Amazing haircuts with tons of laughter! (Mr. Bean barber episode). And The Teddy! Who can forget him?

So, in short, we can say that he is a totally fun guy. So why not we, be a guy like him or a mother like him or a CEO like him. No am not referring to carelessness depicted in the serial, that is just added in the series to make it look funny to the audience. But what I refer here is, why not we enjoy each and every moment of our life just like him? Why shouldn't we love our dear ones so much today, as if there is no tomorrow? Why shouldn't we, for a moment, forget about being a CEO or a manager and then talk to a stressed out employee on a friendly level? Where has anything but that habit of smiling gone?

Please incorporate all of his good attributes to pick up from, to elevate the way you do your current work. Your work represents you. Have fun so that you can increase your happiness to another level of bigness.

If you are right now at your workplace, kindly get up and go to your nearest human being, take their hand in yours and tell them how much you value them and the significance they hold for you. Or go home and hug your sweetheart so tightly that you make her blush all night and tell her "I love you" like you mean it and then take that person or your wife whoever it is, and watch a Mr. Bean episode with them. (It could be your children also)

And if you are alone and with strangers, get up, go to your nearest human being. Talk to them. Give some human touch. And watch any Mr. Bean video with them. Am sure you'll end up making a good friend for life. :)

Spread smiles!

By the way, did you ever wonder how Mr. Bean used to earn his living? I've been puzzled a lot by this question sometimes. Enjoy your day. 

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2)

Just a few weeks back I got my home renovated. Some labourers were employed who did their craft amazingly and made my home beautiful with a completely new, fresh and energizing ambience.

Now let me introduce you to my neighbor. He is a well mannered 34 years old man who is a senior level manager working in a big firm in Delhi.

So, on one day when the labourers were going from my home, after completing their that day's job, at the same time, this manager guy was coming up. The view was so contrasting to me that it intrigued me to look at them both separately and analyze them in different perspectives. After analyzing them for over an hour, In it, I discovered some deep wisdom to learn from the teacher called "Life".

On one side there is this labourer who is making a few dollars in a month so that he could afford a meagre existence in the slums. On the other hand, there is this manager, who makes 20X of what the labourer is earning. Now yes, we do understand the difference in both the parties is because of difference in educational qualifications, skill sets, knowledge and nature of work, besides other factors. But what really inspired me is the fact that a labourer seems to be much fitter and happier than the modern age managers ! The manager guy, which I shared with you about earlier is having a fat tummy and seems to be very lazy. Whereas the labourer is always active and full of energy during his whole work day. That labourer did engrave the high importance of fitness in our lives. Then when I looked closely at them, with regard to their personal lives, emotional standards, and the job satisfaction, I was surprised to see that the labourer won in all of it!

HOW COULD IT BE POSSIBLE?

For knowing the answer of this question, kindly choose any one of the two formulas :-

MORE MONEY = MORE HAPPINESS

OR

MORE MONEY = MORE TENSIONS + MORE WORRIES + MORE WORKS TO DO + MORE GLOOMY DAYS + MORE RISK OF LOSING THAT MONEY.

Now let me ask you, what formula do you agree on ?

If you got on the first one, let me congratulate you because you are on the abundance mindset.

And if you chose the second one, then you are in the scarcity mindset.

Why is that so ?

Abundance mindset makes you feel that you are in control of money, whereas the scarcity mindset suggests you that money is in control of you. No wonder that why most of the people then end up running after money and on the other hand why some people become millionaires in just one generation !

The labourer was on the abundance mindset, as compared to the manager who was residing in the scarcity mindset. The labourer is always smiling, takes his work just like a CEO gives regard to his work, enjoys his life completely and is in fact, according to me, leading a richer life as compared to the manager, who is constantly complaining, fat, smokes 3-4 cigarettes in a day and night. He has even forgotten how to smile.

This feels so painful to me that why do some people have a strong IQ but lack in a strong EQ ? A large part of the answer to this is that the "manager types" are not aware of the high importance of a strong EQ. A person with stronger EQ is able to dodge the problems of life much easily and wisely as compared to the other.

The word I want to focus here is balance. I believe we should balance the EQ of the labourer with the IQ of the manager.

Money is important in our lives. Obviously, it makes the journey of life easy, but it shouldn't be allowed to rule us. Otherwise, the health and emotional lives you are sacrificing right now to earn the money might be the same culprits who will eat up your bank account.  We really shouldn't let our emotional life be at the mercy of the work pressure of the job we are doing. I understand that these are tough times and your company needs you more than ever, but the times were always tough. And they always will be in the future as well. All humans have their share of the sorrows and smiles. Life actually means to count the smiles and eliminate the sorrows.

The labourer indeed taught me a valuable lesson. So, who do you think is richer among the two ?

I know you all will be on the lookout to know how to make your EQ stronger, so in my next blog post, you'll be served with some gorgeous ideas and mind blowing tactics to make you completely indomitable.

Till next time. 

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

Droplets Of Happiness

Few days back I had a very amazing experience. Wanted to share it with you all.

There was a man, aged 28 probably, he was giving all his relatives ice creams to eat. All of his relatives were 80 + in their age and the way they were looking at the ice creams, I was able to guess that it was the first ice cream of their lives. For a while they were saying no to him but somewhere down there, the small child in them was jumping to have it!

 The man insisted and they agreed.

I was watching them very carefully... They were enjoying every bite of it. Whenever the ice would touch their sensitive teeth, they would look at each other and laugh. When the ice cream of one of them would start melting from one end, others notified him and they all again burst into laughter. Every moment till their ice creams was over, they were purely convulsed with laughter. It was a very sweet scene. I just couldn't take my eyes off their happiness and smiles which clearly showcased how much the little child in all of them was happy as if the old man took a seat and the small child in them was showcasing his energy and vitality.

What I learned from them was that life is small, life is short. We need to play it big but we also need to savor the small happiness it brings with it. These are what I refer to as droplets of happiness.

Drop by drop a sea is made. Bricks of small happinesses in life construct a life well lived.

Another incident that revised these thoughts in me happened a few weeks back.

I met a friend of mine. She's an awesome writer. She writes better than me. And I respect her and her way of writing a lot! (If I get permission from her then I'll share her poem with you all... She's damn good! no, not good it's GENIUS level thing! ) okay so as I was sharing, I entered her room and damn... I was surprised, a bit shocked and a lot curious to know the reason.

She has pasted all of her pictures on her wardrobe. Starting from her cute little baby pictures to her till date pictures. It's like a collage. In some she is making weird funny faces, in some, she is posing as a supermodel and in some, she's looking damn gorgeous (which she is, undoubtedly). And not just her pictures, she herself is a very strong lady and someone who doesn't let life's downs get her low. So basically what I learned by looking at those pictures and her nature is that... Life will throw it's worst cards at you sometimes... But it's your wish if you want to lose or you want to play it in spades. Her outgoing nature is just mesmerizing and yes it's also a real reflection of her inner strength and confidence. Her pictures perfectly define the class of that lady. And guys you know from where all these qualities and that alluring confidence came?

It's that collage. I haven't asked her about this. But this is just my view of it.

What I encourage you all to do is...To have your own collage. When your life gets you through its deep difficult valley, your collage will show you the way. When you're in deep tension your collage will tell you one thing. "Dude, why so serious?"(No, not in that tone of joker which you might be having in mind LOL..just kidding) In difficult times I believe these pictures will give you strength. They will speak ... No... They will SHOUT at you in times of distress that "Cmon girl, you've been through many difficult phases, this is nothing in front of all that". And then you bring a whole new self out to the world. Wow! Wouldn't that feel wow?

Let me sum up what I just said by giving you three examples of what your every picture will speak and remind you…

1)    The Weird faces you make will speak that be crazy. Life’s not meant to be all that serious

2)    The Childhood pictures will speak at you that live life maturely, be responsible but most importantly be a child at heart.

3)    The pictures in which you are looking elegant (for ladies)/dapper(for gentlemen), they will speak to you that look at yourself. You are worth more than you think. And you deserve nothing less than first class.

So please get your collage on. It's self-motivating and works as a self-affirmation tool too that you're worth more than you could ever think.

Your collage will always give you a smile on your face. And there's a very powerful effect of a smile. It's a very bitter truth that am telling you... But the world doesn't give a damn about the fact if you are sad. Your sadness will repel others. And your smile will attract others. And my friend's smile is very attractive and a good example of exuding passion and vitality which she so easily demonstrates through her strong character. 

If your tears cannot find a place in your eyes... Will they ever find any place in someone's heart? No. They won't. Only a few will be by your side and your biggest ally will always be at your side, and that is YOU!!!

So, have a collage guys! So that your best friend "YOU" is always there, looking at you, smiling at you and reminding you to take life easily, and to make you realize that you're just Awesome!!! 

These pictures will be your small little droplets of happiness that will make your life worth living ! 

So I would now end up this blog post with her latest (and her favorite WhatsApp status) it's this...

LOVE. LAUGH. LIVE.

Till next time. 

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy. 

Warmth Of Love

Today's blog post is very simple and the way I have learned it is simply profound.

This morning I was melting some ice cubes. So I was pouring some normal temperature water on a very big ice cube. The ice cube would generally take approx an hour to melt completely, but just after pouring 2 buckets of water, the ice cube was gone!

What I learned from here:-

Just like the cold ice cube could be melted by the warm water... Same way the warmth of love can break even the coldest of hearts.

Oh... An incident came to my mind right now... A few months back  when I used to attend some training on the stock market and share market of India, I used to have a Sir there. He never used to smile neither with any other students nor me. So I shared with my mom that mom he's such a bad guy he never smiles.

My mom said "Prateek, you are such a positive and hard working guy... Take him as a challenge and I give you this challenge... Before you leave this institute when your training will be over, you have to make him smile"

Well, it was seriously a very tough challenge. That guy was so stubborn that he never smiled to my "good morning sir". Every day I used to smile at him and say "Good morning sir " and he rarely replied as if the government was imposing a tax on his every smile ! Lol. He was that stubborn. It seemed to me like he took the oath to never smile to Prateek when he took birth. ROFL :D okay jokes apart...

He's a nice guy. When he opened up to me, I realized that somewhere down the line, he was demotivated because of some personal issues. I happened to help him in that too.

Oh and by the way... I made him smile a lot. I even have selfies with him. :D. Am not that much fan of selfies like my another sweet friend (G), but I only clicked those selfies to prove to my mom. That mom... I DID IT ! BRING IT ON ! I love that day. That feeling that yes... I did it man! It was awesome! 

It actually took me around 45 days to make him smile. Every day I used to look at him, smile at him and greet him and then get down that still he didn't smile back. But I never gave up.

So you see... The warmth of my love finally broke the cold heart of that guy.

Your love is the biggest weapon to neutralize any enemy. Be it your angry boss or your that colleague that is jealous of you. Or it could be your stubborn child who never listens to you. Or it even could be your neighbor who always throws his junk in your garden.

Love them. Like they are your sweethearts. Love them like when they irritate you, you love it. Yeah, it sounds funny and believes me your this attitude will shock them!

But in the end... You will win.

Mahatma Gandhi, a weak and fragile man in India wearing a simple loincloth fought for freedom without even lifting his hands in the air to fight… and masses followed him. So why can't you? Of course, he was a great human being and we can't compare to the bigness of his heart but yes... This is the sure way to start!

So ... Do it! Now!

Spread love. Spread happiness.

Till next time.

#StayMotivated #StayHappy #StayExcited

Invest in Humanity

I don't have the privilege to have a large number of friends, that's why I don't have many. I kind of enjoy having my own alone time a lot. Yes, I do have friends, but only a few. Two of my friends had the following conversation. Let's give them names A and B for ease.

The story line is that my friend "A" was needing some money to give a gift to his new girlfriend. So "B" had some pocket money saved so he promised to give it to him (A). As "B" was coming to give the money to him, he gave that money to an auto rickshaw driver because the auto rickshaw driver had to give the money to his landlord as that day was the last day of the payment term period. 

My friend "B" has traveled a lot from that auto and thus, he knew that auto driver.

My friend "A" said to me "See Prateek, what kind of a friend is he ? I wanted that money to give that expensive perfume to my girlfriend and he gave that money to someone else"

My instant reply to this was "I understand buddy. But see what he has done. He has truly invested in humanity. By giving that money to you, of course, he would be happy to help you but just look at the satisfaction on his face now. He's euphoric."

And then even my friend "A" realized his mistake.

It's not just about the money my friend gave to the auto driver. It's about the trust and love for humanity that he invested. In this world where people live, money values more to humans than humans, it's so easy to have the biggest possible pocket full of money and it's so difficult to have the biggest heart filled with love and compassion for others.

The moment we start loving money more than humans, we start measuring relationships in monetary terms and this is the biggest blunder of all time. You can buy money with strong relationships, but you can never buy a relationship with the dollars in your bank account. How do you think such strong businesses were developed? They had such Top level management that believes in the power of humans and agrees that the most important asset of the company goes up every morning and comes down every evening through the lift. Relationships, be it in business or otherwise, have to be built on strong foundations of kindness, compassion, love and trust. This is the best way to invest in humanity.

So please invest in humanity. Period.

Till next time. . .

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy. 

Victim Vs Victor

Let me start this conversation of ours with a simple question to you. What does this word "WINNING" bring into your mind?

Success, happiness, freedom, top of the world feeling etc , all of us like winning don't we? We all like being called as winners. It feels good when people make us feel special. It feels great when we are celebrated or when our success is celebrated.

But sometimes we do see that some people like winning by wrong means. These are the people, am sure, you're surrounded with and so am I. These people like winning, it doesn't matter to them if they are putting their foot on other people's heads to go above them, the only thing they want is success and they are going to get it by hook or by crook. These people are very shrewd and very cunning. They know how to manipulate the minds of others and make others work for them. Some of the traits of such people include :-

ü They're best liars

ü They are highly manipulative

ü Success goes to their minds

ü If they win, everyone is a lower class person to them

ü They treat others badly and call them by foul names

ü They are the best description of "attention seeker" word

ü They get joyous at small wins

ü Whenever they see any difficult task they automatically give it the tag of impossible.

ü They talk dirty. They use the language of the victim.

ü They are the negative parasites roaming around in the world.

ü They pull down others who are going up in life, they make a rope from such people and use this rope to get themselves up to the success while on their way they keep on pinching others.

ü For such people, success means everything. Human values are an alien topic to them.

ü They make others happy by having fun with them and on their backs, they criticize them.

ü They are the hidden sweetest haters. They hate you and still be sweet and try to pull you down. (Let me tell you, they are very sweet, you won't know when it's poison they're giving you instead of honey. Please be aware of them. If you want I'll give you a blog post on how to identify such people)

ü They love this formula Other's hard workàcheatingàmy incomeàmy profit

ü They spread out negativity specifically because they can't see competitors among their colleagues.

ü From the above point only you can guess T\that yes, they are insecure from inside.

ü There is a large black hole of emptiness inside them.

ü They talk more, do less.

ü They spend time on useless activities.

ü Do you want to know what's going around ? Spend 5 minutes with them and you'll get what you want. They're the biggest gossipers.

ü And the main point, they have two best friends named excuses and procrastination.

ü They know how to spend their most productive days in the most unproductive manner. They're masters at it.

ü They love entertainment.

ü They show respect.

ü They have big TVs.

ü  They waste their days. So their lives!

And, these people are not real leaders they are pseudo leaders. They are the best examples of window dressing. They show themselves as some superior beings but when you look inside of them, they're empty.

Now let me introduce you to another breed of human beings. Noticing such people is very difficult. You can't find them very easily. They are the rare species who are not blessed with anything special, they look like us, they eat the same food like us, they just breath something with oxygen, and that thing is Passion. The passion for winning the world. The passion to prove their mettle. The passion for showing the world what actually they're made of. I refer to them as the Victors! 

The men who have always chased victory. I know this sounds very exciting. Do You want to know what are the qualities of such people? Welcome aboard! Here starts the list :-

ü They're honest.

ü They believe in being transparent.

ü Success goes to their hearts because they already know that it is just the beginning. 

ü If they win, they try to make others win as well.

ü They give respect to all. Be it the CEO or the gatekeeper. after all, we all end up being dust.

ü They are the best examples of “practice makes a man perfect”.

ü They do get joyous at small wins but do keep in mind their final goals.

ü The impossible tag doesn't work on them. They have some strange goggles to see the possible behind what's impossible.

ü They talk the language of the genius. They talk the language of the elite.

ü They are the guys who spread smiles wherever they go.

ü They do face criticism but they never pull people down. Because they know that all great people in the history have had good relationships. They know that network is more important than net worth.

ü Their very definition of success starts from human values.

ü They are worst back biters. All they believe in is to praise someone on the face or if it's about making the other person realize his mistake, they do this on the face only.

ü They are the best life lovers! They love everyone around them. No matter who it is. If it's a living being, they love it. That's their simple formula

ü Their formula is :- My hard workàMy profitàMy success.

ü They radiate positivity. Positivity just flows out of them wherever they go.

ü They are in control. Neither introvert nor extrovert.

ü There is a deep ocean of courage inside them.

ü They do more, talk less.

ü They only spend their time on useful activities.

ü They hate gossips. There is a huge difference between gossiping and talking. They talk. They don't gossip. They talk clean. They don't talk dirty.

ü They have a lot of best friends, among them a few are patience, passion, courage, conviction etc

ü They call it a day only if it has been productive.

ü They love education.

ü They give respect. Giving is by heart. Showing is just fake.

ü They have BIG libraries without which they cannot survive.

So there you see, there are two different breeds in the society. Now it depends upon you. Which side do you reside?

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.