EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2)

Just a few weeks back I got my home renovated. Some labourers were employed who did their craft amazingly and made my home beautiful with a completely new, fresh and energizing ambience.

Now let me introduce you to my neighbor. He is a well mannered 34 years old man who is a senior level manager working in a big firm in Delhi.

So, on one day when the labourers were going from my home, after completing their that day's job, at the same time, this manager guy was coming up. The view was so contrasting to me that it intrigued me to look at them both separately and analyze them in different perspectives. After analyzing them for over an hour, In it, I discovered some deep wisdom to learn from the teacher called "Life".

On one side there is this labourer who is making a few dollars in a month so that he could afford a meagre existence in the slums. On the other hand, there is this manager, who makes 20X of what the labourer is earning. Now yes, we do understand the difference in both the parties is because of difference in educational qualifications, skill sets, knowledge and nature of work, besides other factors. But what really inspired me is the fact that a labourer seems to be much fitter and happier than the modern age managers ! The manager guy, which I shared with you about earlier is having a fat tummy and seems to be very lazy. Whereas the labourer is always active and full of energy during his whole work day. That labourer did engrave the high importance of fitness in our lives. Then when I looked closely at them, with regard to their personal lives, emotional standards, and the job satisfaction, I was surprised to see that the labourer won in all of it!

HOW COULD IT BE POSSIBLE?

For knowing the answer of this question, kindly choose any one of the two formulas :-

MORE MONEY = MORE HAPPINESS

OR

MORE MONEY = MORE TENSIONS + MORE WORRIES + MORE WORKS TO DO + MORE GLOOMY DAYS + MORE RISK OF LOSING THAT MONEY.

Now let me ask you, what formula do you agree on ?

If you got on the first one, let me congratulate you because you are on the abundance mindset.

And if you chose the second one, then you are in the scarcity mindset.

Why is that so ?

Abundance mindset makes you feel that you are in control of money, whereas the scarcity mindset suggests you that money is in control of you. No wonder that why most of the people then end up running after money and on the other hand why some people become millionaires in just one generation !

The labourer was on the abundance mindset, as compared to the manager who was residing in the scarcity mindset. The labourer is always smiling, takes his work just like a CEO gives regard to his work, enjoys his life completely and is in fact, according to me, leading a richer life as compared to the manager, who is constantly complaining, fat, smokes 3-4 cigarettes in a day and night. He has even forgotten how to smile.

This feels so painful to me that why do some people have a strong IQ but lack in a strong EQ ? A large part of the answer to this is that the "manager types" are not aware of the high importance of a strong EQ. A person with stronger EQ is able to dodge the problems of life much easily and wisely as compared to the other.

The word I want to focus here is balance. I believe we should balance the EQ of the labourer with the IQ of the manager.

Money is important in our lives. Obviously, it makes the journey of life easy, but it shouldn't be allowed to rule us. Otherwise, the health and emotional lives you are sacrificing right now to earn the money might be the same culprits who will eat up your bank account.  We really shouldn't let our emotional life be at the mercy of the work pressure of the job we are doing. I understand that these are tough times and your company needs you more than ever, but the times were always tough. And they always will be in the future as well. All humans have their share of the sorrows and smiles. Life actually means to count the smiles and eliminate the sorrows.

The labourer indeed taught me a valuable lesson. So, who do you think is richer among the two ?

I know you all will be on the lookout to know how to make your EQ stronger, so in my next blog post, you'll be served with some gorgeous ideas and mind blowing tactics to make you completely indomitable.

Till next time. 

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

How to be the real YOU ? (Part 4 of 4 )

[Read : How to be the real YOU ? (Part 3 of 4)  ]

Hello, Friends ! Hope you all are doing great!

Life’s  not always an easy ride. Well, had some tough days recently. But yes they taught me a lot and they provided me with some beautiful insights to share with you on this final blog post on "How to be the REAL YOU?"

So, here it goes:-

1)    Be Your Own Model

 Many of us have set up someone as our role models. They are the people who influence our lives in some way or the other. They motivate us. They inspire us. Directly or indirectly. What I urge you to do is, adapt the qualities of these people in yourself. Yes, it will be difficult. But, whatever comes free in life is always of lowest quality.

2)    Face Up Your Fears

Our Fears are nothing but those imaginary beings in our minds, created by us or the world outside. These parasites slowly and steadily eat up our own potential, our caliber and our confidence. And if you  notice carefully and go in detail about your fears, you will notice that yes they were imposed on us by the world. We have bought those fears from the weak minded individuals living with us in this society. Well, obviously you can't ignore these people but please, please and please go to your fears. A beautiful insight for you: - your fears scare you, right? Wouldn’t it feel good to you if you scare your fears away? I know it would. Have been there. Done that. Felt euphoric. !  I’ll dedicate one blog post to you on how to face up your fears. Look out for it in the future. Acting in the face of fear is scary, I agree, but yes this is the point where an abundance of growth resides. So, Fear your Fears. 

3)    Live Life Full Out

Let me ask you, are you really living up your life? Are you really being the small child at heart? If not, then let me tell you that you are still not living up your life. The real version of you deserves to shine out and make the world go wow with his/her expertise in whatever you’re doing. How would feel if everything that you wanted from your life gets presented to you in a few days or months? Now welcome to the reality. This thing never happens and never will until and unless you live out your every day like it’s your last. Small things in life, matter a lot. That chirping of the birds in the morning, the laughter of your kids, the good morning kiss of your spouse, the silent walks down the beach, that madness overloaded dance in the rain, all these things cost nothing and still we take them for granted and miss them out. I gently suggest you to enjoy these small things because they are the “living life full out moments.”

4)    Take calculated risks

All top people in every industry have the eye for a future opportunity. They all make calculated decisions and most of the times, they win out. What the mediocrity sees as a risk the genius notices it as an opportunity to amp up the game. Yes, the elite players know that the risk they are taking could be very costly but can you put a price tag on the feeling when you achieve success after doing the risk? No. You can’t.

5)    Smile

The first thing you and I did after the birth was a smile.(besides crying, just kidding guys) and still many of the people I know, they just don’t smile properly. I feel like asking them “sir, has the government put up some taxes on you for smiling?” Smiling makes us happy. It makes you feel that every problem you’re facing right now is small. And believe me, instead of going to the doctors and spending thousands of dollars to lower your stress levels, just buy some good funny movies and sit back and put your cell phones on silent. You’ll see the change yourself. It will be worth the investment.

6)    Burn your worries

Bruce Lee, heard the name? He used to do this technique. He always used to write down his worries on a piece of paper and then burn up that paper. According to him, that burning paper would make him feel as if his worries and tensions are getting burned.

7)    Last but not the least- Focus up your life on what you want, not on what you don’t want.

You want happiness, go for it! You want success, go for it! You want love, go for it! Do you want the best in the world? Go For It !!!

Life is too small… Why waste each day?

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.