Showing posts with label fire in the belly. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fire in the belly. Show all posts

Saturday, October 01, 2016

What to do When it seems like the World is Standing Against You ?

Have you ever felt that what you're doing , is somehow ridiculed by the world?
   
Have you ever heard from the public, shouting at you from the other side of the fence that you cannot do it and throwing pebbles at you, just to make you stop what you're trying to achieve?

Have you ever felt that inner anger when even your own family members are not listening to you and understanding your innate desire to change the world with your craft ?

Have you ever heard the saying that "you're too ordinary" or "it'll take a lot of time to build up" or something like "you can do it as a part-time hobby, but you will never earn good money from it"?

Have you ever heard from the noisy people that "there are thousands like you, you don't have that thing to make a difference? You won't make a difference that “BIG"?


These are just some of the questions that you might be encountering on your way to success. And if you are going in this way, then I stand up for you and give you hats off. Because what you're doing is legendary. Not everyone in this world has that amount of guts to stand up against the society.

From our birth, we are accustomed to following the living ways of our closed ones. We imitate their every action like speaking, eating, talking etc to get in tune with the customs of the world. And such a child is then given the label as a "civilized" child. But when this same child wants to do something different from the world he is given the label of "uncivilized". Such a child wants to realize his wild dreams and pursue his passions without giving any regard to what the society is doing and the society stops him. Even though the society knows that such a person will change the world for the good.

We have encountered “n” number of instances where if we question the way of thinking we are punished or given the tag of "uncivilized".

I do sometimes challenge this dogma of the so-called civilization. Like what really is it?

If "A" is doing something and "B" imitates it, "C" watches "B" doing and imitates, then why does "D" has to do that only ? Are there any rules written somewhere? If they are, please show them to me.

See friends, I am a guy who asks a hell lot of questions when curious and want to know about something to the root of it. My friends sometimes call me as "questionnaire" too !

And then, if  "D" challenges what the idea behind what "A" has done they all call him "uncivilized". 
Why ? Is it just because he is going in some other way. This reminds me of the line so beautifully said by Robin Sharma “All geniuses were first ridiculed before they were revered.”




Now if you go to "B" and ask him "If you give me a valid reason that why are you doing what "A" has done, I'll stop doing what am trying to do and I'll do as per you say"

Ask this question to "C" as well. And you know what they'll answer ?
They will be numb. They'll try to rebuke you and try to whoosh you off because somewhere down the line they are guilty of not being able to answer this simple question of yours.

And I believe it is their fault somewhere. Now you'll ask me why and how. Let me throw some light on it.

"C" is pressurizing "D" to do what "C" has done.
And "C" has done that work because "B" had done it.
And "B" has done it because "A" had done it.
Now think, from where did "A" get this work?
All the others inherited it from their ancestor (here, "A")
But we don't question that FROM WHERE DID “A” GET IT ?

He never got it from someone else. He INVENTED it. He was the one from whom the so-called work took birth. Don't you think he might have faced ridicule during his times ? Because what situation you are facing right now, "A" went through the same set of issues.

For instance, take the Wright Brothers. At their time they were ridiculed to think about a "flying machine". The world called them crazy. They were, in fact, made the laughing stock of the locality for thinking "too high". Thanks to them now we can fly that high!

The world has stood against the odd ones. And it will. Because they cannot tolerate something different happening among them. The fact that why "B" and "C" followed what "A" had done resembles that "A" had invented his thing and "B" and "C" simply followed it. They never tried anything new or maybe they were afraid of failure or maybe they weren't blessed enough to have the power to think out of the box. Now you'll see that the ones who are against you are mostly of the category of "B" and "C". They are the afraid ones. (Residents of the Afraid Street)

These Afraid Street residents cannot see someone going out of their herd. They more or less are like the sheep following what one is following and eating what one of them is eating.

And on the other side of the river, there is a land called "Genius Land". And I know... you live there only. But then we do need our resources and we need the afraid ones in our lives as well.

So how to deal with the world when the world stands against you ? Let me give you some protocols to follow.

1)    Respect and love your haters.

Yes I mean love them ! Why ? Because if they weren't there, from where would you get the motivation to work harder and to prove them wrong ?

2)    Talk less to them.

With less, I mean very less. Because after greetings, the next line coming out from their mouths might hurt you.

3)    If they hurt you?

Now if they hurt you, you'll be spending some amount of time thinking about why they said this and that. While doing so you are wasting up your own time ! And in fact, subconsciously you have allowed them to mess up with the beautiful framework of your mindset. So it's better to not to spend so much time with them.

4)    Don't argue with them, show them !

If you'll start arguing with them, you are yourself saying to them that "Hey! You have hurt me and you have won in hurting me. Congratulations" Do you want them to feel that ? Because they really want to hear those words in your arguments. When you are arguing with them they are subconsciously receiving the message of their success in hurting you. And nothing feels good to them but that feeling alone of hurting you. Please remember that the weak always argue. The wise shows them up. Show your critics with your brilliance and your bravery that you are worth the effort. You CAN change the world.

And I accept it's very difficult to live amid these constant pokes of the mediocrity and still focus on your craft. But let me share with you a beautiful insight with you that I've got just know while writing this blog post.

Imagine yourself as an airplane and the so-called afraid ones as the cars. You can obviously roam around in a country with both but can you roam around the world in the same car? No, you can't. And why is that? Because an airplane flies above the cars.

Now what I invite you to envision is that the airplane also hears the horns or the rebukes of the cars that "there is no use of flying so high and there is no other world than this."

But the airplane has his set of values and strong willpower which gives him the much-needed wisdom and courage to think against the cars. So what does he do ? He takes off. Simply, slowly and steadily with self-belief and curiosity in eyes, he takes off amid the "noisy honking cars" to set his own path and write his own destiny.

Imagine what would happen if the airplane would listen to the cars all his life?  He would die very soon. Now you see what really is happening, the airplane tells the cars about the other part of the never explored world, which fascinates them (cars) and the airplane takes those noisy cars to another land. In return for this service to the society, all those noisy cars shut down their honking and respect the bravery of the airplane and give him the title of the LEGEND !

So my dear friend, the noisy people around you will speak, but it totally depends on you if you want to die among them or take off with that leap of faith and straight away dive into your dreams with those eyes of curiosity to make a change in the world because I believe, you will !

One day, this noise will shut down but you have to keep patience for it which the airplane demonstrated so beautifully.

Practice these ideas, reflect on them. Write them down to get them tattooed on your brain. Because these facts alone, will change your way of looking at your naysayers.

You need those naysayers. They're not useless. Instead, they are priceless. Because the noisy cars challenged the airplane, he dived straight into discovering his own path.

The roads have limits. Sky doesn't. You are an airplane. The sky is yours for the taking, my dear friend. Fly high ! Set your own record in the world! Because somewhere down there, there is a group of noisy cars waiting to give you the title of a LEGEND!


Spread your feathers of faith and fly high.




Till next time.





Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

Sunday, September 18, 2016

How to stay happy in every situation we face ?





Happiness is a subjective state. Or to simplify it more for you, happiness comes from inside.

There are times when we are feeling miserable and sad, because many times you are trying to find out happiness from your outside world. See, there is no harm in that, we all seek happiness and a good laugh from our peer groups and our close ones, but many times these are the very people who make us sad and gloomy. These are the people who sometimes stab us in the back and hurt us deeply. For this, let me give you a few pointers on how to feel truly happy.


1.    STOP SPENDING A LOT OF TIME WITH YOUR SWEET HATERS.

Yes, you got me right! stop spending a lot of time with those who love you in front of you and when you turn your back, they start criticizing you. Such people don’t deserve your time and love, so leave them alone slowly. With this I mean that, be friends with them but just the Hi or Hellos friends, not more than that.

2.    MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF

Start spending a lot of time with yourself, eat some good pasta alone, be your best companion. I feel this is the truest way to be happy from inside. Love yourself, understand what drives you and motivates you in life. Make the time to analyze what passions you had in the childhood but somewhere got lost, reignite that fire and work towards them! This feel surely make you feel happy.


3.    GIVE YOURSELF A REALITY CHECK EVERY SUNDAY NIGHT

Every Sunday night, as you are going to sleep, for a few minutes, take your journal out, think about how well you performed during that week, how many good laughter did you share and how many times did you rise yourself up from the negativity of the world. Give yourself a check for this. By doing this, you will be feeling more alive and more energized during your life. And if you don’t feel you have lived upto that level, make it a resolution to be more happy next week ! Seems like an interesting game, isn’t it?

 
4.    FIND HAPPINESS INSIDE!!!

I know you won’t believe if I tell you that there is a never ending waterfall of happiness hidden inside of you. Don’t just look onto the faces of others to make you happy, because if you will, one day they will think that you are lonely and sad from inside and will thus leave you. I have seen many people getting attracted to the “happy” people in a room. You know what differentiates between those few and all others ? It is the fact that former produces happiness and the latter just receives it.


Nothing is really bad in this world. It’s all about the lens you are using to view it. For a few days, use my lens by trying out whatever I have shared with you, then come back here and do share with me how you felt.

Let me give you a sneak peek idea, watch Mr. Bean videos whenever you feel sad, it will surely lift up your mood.





Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

Tuesday, March 01, 2016

How to be the real YOU ? (Part 3 of 4)




Step - 3:  Revisit your childhood days





When you even say the word "children", don’t you feel a bit of joy and happiness in your heart? 

Those of you all who have children must now be having the faces of your children in front of your eyes and those who don’t have children, must now be revisiting their own childhood memories. 
Do you really know what makes the small children so adorable? Well, it is the glitter in their eyes, their innocence, and their very nature of being connected to their truest selves that make them so adorable. And how can we forget their smiles ? Their smiles are so contagious that even the person who had the worst day will be smiling. Why does it happen that when you come from your work, tired and all stressed up and then to add to your stress your boss calls you up and gives you some strict word, but then only, you see your small child coming from his room running towards you and hugs you, your stress and anxiety just get vanished with that small magic hug. What do you feel after it? Elated? Euphoric, right?

That feeling of a baby’s smile, it communicates the music of his pure soul to your own soul and it is just beyond comparison. This feeling always connects me to my mortality. Am not being negative, but that is what moves me the most. I do feel that the most difficult problems in our lives can be solved only by one cute smile from your little angel. Those little angels are truly the messengers of god. All our problems, worries, anxieties and tensions are solved in a snap of your fingers. You know why those little angels can solve all your problems? The reason is that they don’t take life too seriously.

Kindly notice any small child when they’re doing some work which they are very much passionate about. Those small kids are very much passionate and alive while doing their work that we can feel that passion. 

I recently noticed my cousin brother. He was busy doing drawing different cartoons. He’s a beautiful cartoonist. He draws very amazing cartoons. And while he was fully engaged in his work, all of us in the house mattered the least to him. Well, that’s what genius is all about. This universe will surely support those who devote themselves fully to their craft and promise themselves to render the exquisite amount of creativity that the world just can’t ignore the genius in them.

Isn’t it funny that these small children who learn everything from us become our best teachers sometimes? We never know that when our life will show us our teacher. That particular person can be anyone and can meet us anywhere. Please be ready always. I suggest you to always be ready for the teacher of yours. When the student will be ready the teacher will surely present himself.

Model the small children, their passion, persistence and the fire with which they engage themselves in their work, It's truly breathtaking.