Where Do You Count Yourself ?

It's a basic human tendency to count ourselves as superior to other human beings around us. Yes, no doubt in the fact that we are all masters of different crafts and skills and no one can match us; we are all unique. But what drives me to think is that does such kind of thinking makes us arrogant, egoistic or kind and a gentle human being ? This is by far the most imperative, highly impressionable point I have ever encountered with.

The main question I want you to consider right now, is that where do you count yourself ? Do you get counted as an arrogant, grumpy person or you are loved by all for being a kind and gentle human being ?

Now I know, no one of us would raise a hand and say "oh yeah! I am the grumpy idiot you're looking for".

So for your sake, I have developed a few questions for you to answer that will determine your side soon. Please be honest with yourself and give out the answer as quickly as it snaps, without delay.

Here we go !

Ready ?

1)    In a marriage or a family function or a big party, do you stand outside the group, make fewer conversations and tend to be a wallflower, preferring not to go and meet the other people ?

2)    When you wake up, you get straight into the shower, eat your breakfast and rush off to the office, without kissing goodbye to your loved ones ?

3)    Do you like the face you see in the mirror each and every day in the morning?

4)    Do you feel that your everyday activity is getting you somewhat closer to where you want to be at the end of your life ?

5)    Do you help a stranger now and then ?

6)    Do you believe in charity ?

7)    Do you ever feel like taking a flower (without any special occasion) for your sweetheart to tell him/her how much you appreciate them ?

8)    Do you have a weekly habit of calling up your parents and a monthly habit (at least once a month) to meet them ?

9)    Have you installed the same beliefs in your life which you proudly lecture to your peers about?

10)  Are you taking responsibility today ?

11)  Do you pay gratitude for what you have today, instead of fretting over for what you lack ?

12)  Can you show your answers, proudly, to these questions to your closest ones ?

13)  Do you love yourself ?

Result Time !

If you have answered "No" to 5 or more questions, then buddy, you stand on the egoistic, arrogant side. See it's not my view point, it's a general view. If you are not praising your wife for making a tasty dish, then to her you would definitely look grumpy. If you don't appreciate your subordinates or make no room for them to unleash their creativity then you will be tagged as a dictator, not a leader.

Reflect upon these questions in your journal today and deeply think where all do you need improvement.

We all have imperfections, including me, but we all can improve.

My job here is done to make you aware of your negatives. Action part lies on your side. Will you make the effort to move the needle from being a grumpy man to a kind, generous human being ?

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

Are You Doing Your Part ?

Excuse me for this, but this particular blog post is actually for those specific group of people who have a habit of "doing it later". And this “later” never comes. I always share with you all the topic of how to be more productive and more energized, but today I felt the need to write for the other group of people.

We all have seen, met and loved such people in our lives who were always de-motivated about doing their work. Such people fall into the procrastination group. These guys are generally fat, lazy and are the worst companions to roam around with. They infuse you with their negativity and make you feel to get off track about chasing your worthy goals and ambitions.

For such people, I don't feel hatred. I feel pity. Because they are not made aware of the tremendous potential they possess and the opportunities they are losing, are nothing but the precious time they are letting go of their hands like grains of sand.

If you are one of those people who don't like to work and sit around in your home, nibble on all the chips and coke cans you have in your kitchen, I would like to invite you to see the life, but from your angle only ! Not from mine or anybody else's angle.

 I know you must be bombarded with such advice, rebukes, and anger from all people around you. That is the reason why I want to show you what I want to show you, from your own angle.

Okay, so now, look around you. What can you see?

In your house, what can you see right now? Your mother is working in the kitchen preparing the supper, your dad just returned from his tiring day at the office where he works his butt off each and every day. Now look at the AC in your room. It's working. Constantly you change the temperature to meet your requirements.

Suppose your dad is taking you guys out for dinner because he got the promotion, which for so many days he had his eyes on. (Note: here the promotion also means he is changing or maybe I should say evolving in his job)

You guys get in the car ready to go to your favorite restaurant. You are in your car. How does a car work? The car works by moving. Word to be noted here is "moving".  Look outside the window. What can you see then? Other cars are passing by. Some cars are better than yours, some cheaper than yours. Still, all are similar in one aspect, all are doing what? All are moving.

After having your meal, you guys go out for a walk from the restaurant to the parking lot. And as you are passing by the streets, you hear some voices of laughter, you turn around and you see some men around 26 of age, enjoying and sharing jokes. You feel how happy they are, enjoying their lives and here you are just getting sad as the time passes by.

You reach home with your mom and dad. You reach your room. Now before you turn on the lights, just look at your house for a second. What do you see?

Darkroom. Blackness spread over like the night. Stillness. No life in it. Dead.

Do you like your room like that? No, you don't. And thus you bring everything back to life with the switch.

See my dear friend, this is the way your family feels about you when you are not doing anything and sitting like a lifeless statue in their lives. When you went out and saw all the world "moving" didn't that shake you up?

Moving, changing, evolving, working, these are all the synonyms of activity. The reason you feel sad, gloomy and de-motivated is because you are not being a part of this universe. This universe is constantly moving forward to change. Like you feel differently about different people, you have different and evolving preferences in the food you order every time you enter the same restaurant and here you are sitting idle, wasting up your time, procrastinating the responsibilities you have and thus postponing your own success.

You have two choices now, either keep on being lazy and become a part of forgettable history or to get up, roll your sleeves and show to the world that you count too, create something magnificent in your life and be part of the unforgettable winners of history.

The choice is yours.

You all might be having someone in your life who falls into this category of lazy people. It could be a subordinate at your office or it could be your own daughter or it could be a student in your class, whoever it is, please share with him/her my this insight and let them shine in this world. This is simply because they deserve success, as much as you and I.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

Why your laziness will get you nowhere?

It feels so good when you are sitting in front of your TV or playing your favorite game and a large pizza, large coke and all the tasty burgers and chips are there to give you the best possible company. You are munching on them as if they're never gonna end and the game or the movie just adds spice to the aura. No one is there to disturb you. No one gives a damn about what you're doing and neither do you give a damn about the world. You don't care about the world. The world seems to be an illusion for you and the game or the movie seems to be your sole mission of the life. You just don't care that who will pay the bills and how. The movie/game is your life. When once you got rejected by a beautiful girl you slip into the abyss of depression and the combination of the movie and pizza seems to you like the only way to escape it. Your family is fed up with you and so are you fed up with them. This way, days slip into weeks, weeks slip into months and months slip into years and one day, You're a fat ugly guy. It feels to you as if a big inflated tire is tied around your belly making you look so ugly. Then you start blaming all the people who were behind it, slipping again into that comfortable couch loaded with piles of pizzas and endless cans of coke.

And then, you welcome yourself to "Lazy Land". How does it feel to live in here? Terrible? Yes, undoubtedly.

 So you are spending endless days in front of your TV or the PlayStation and enjoying your pizzas, dude, Is that what life is? I know you'll say to me "Prateek, hell yes! That is life" and in saying this, somewhere down the line you're insecure. You're afraid to be out in the world and play your part. You're a coward. Many times our egos are the curtains to hide our insecurities and that is exactly what you're doing. If you call your couch as the most comfortable place in the world, then please get up and take a whiff of reality, because that's not what's gonna be there in your life always. That is not gonna be the medium to pay your bills.

I know a friend of mine who used to do this all day, I said him a few words and they were harsh, rude and blunt. We didn't talk for many months for the words I said to him, hurt him badly but those were the injections to his self-esteem. And he's doing pretty well in his life now. What I said to him was "R, dude what are you doing? Are you a human or a dog? A real human being works hard to earn his bread whereas a street dog just eats up whatever is thrown towards him which is mostly the leftovers of others. Who are you? I see no difference between you and the dog. You are living on your parent's checks" and then damn! He was hit. Hit like a bullet straight in his heart. I wanted to do that only. But yes, that talk changed him for life. Look at him now and he's much fitter than me! Look at this diagram below and it might give you some realistic idea about what your laziness is doing up to you.

I know I am a bit blunt in this blog post but I just have to. For your betterment. Your fitness levels showcase your mental levels to the world. Like we took the example of a girl earlier, a girl will only like you if she sees that you do take care of your health. Eating up those pizzas now is enjoying, why so? Because your parents are paying the bills. After your parents are gone who will then pay the bills of your pizzas? Ignorance isn't the solution here, awareness is.Laziness very often breeds procrastination, which is the primary reason why average people remain average all their lives. 

Deep inside we all have a longing to realize our truest potential. We all want to change the world. We all want to drive great expensive cars. We all want to live in big houses. We all want to be millionaires. But all this can't just happen with a snap! It takes hard work and dedication. 

By shedding up all the habits that make you lazy, by transcending that "lazy feel", by giving yourself constant motivation that you have to make your today better than your yesterday, you'll automatically set yourself up to win. You'll discover more amazing stuff in the world. You'll see that your PlayStation or the movie can't give you that much happiness than making yourself work harder every day to strive for your aspirations. Once the couch that felt comfortable while playing on your PlayStation will now seem to you like the most uncomfortable place. And why will this happen?because you'll realize that your couch was just a sneaky little tiny hole where you hide from the reality of the world as if it never existed.

 There's no wrong in playing games on PlayStation as well,  do it, but with regard to time. I myself love playing games. But don't play them that often. 

Now I leave you with another question...

EITHER FEED YOUR MIND WITH ALL THE EXCUSES OR FEED YOUR MIND WITH PASSION, DEDICATION, AND WILLPOWER TO STRUGGLE.

Results do vary on both the sides.

YOUR FITNESS IS 100% MENTAL, YOUR BODY WON’T GO, WHERE YOUR MIND WON’T PUSH IT.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy. Stay active. 

The Truth always has to fight harder

I know this topic is very difficult to understand. The truth is always bitter. But the bitter, the better. You know, why truth always has to fight harder ? Because when you have a target in front of you and you know how difficult it is to hit, you trigger the most powerful bullet in you. And that powerful bullet in you is your hunger; hunger to fight harder ; Hunger to get your face marred by dust and sweat and blood and still be in the arena and fight like a warrior.

The truth is defined as a person or an idea that can change the world. History has always proved that men of all ages who tried to do “something different” were always hated by the society, even though later the same society gave them the respect multifold. 

Take Picasso, he was never liked for his work, but did he give up? Take Mahatma Gandhi, earlier even he faced many challenges but did he give up? Let me share with you a small story. There was a man long time ago. He was a thinker and also a philosopher. His ideas were unique and worthy of appreciation by the whole world. But still the world couldn’t see the genius in him. So he was posed with a life threatening situation, either he should leave all his philosophical thinking OR he should drink poison. 2 questions :-

1)    What do you think he did?

2)    Who was he?

The answers are:-

1)    He drank the poison

2)    He was SOCRATES     

Life has not always been easy for the successful men who have ever walked this planet. They had to pay huge prices. But did they ever give up? Had Socrates given up, we would have never known the name. The only way in which you can write your name in history is by doing something epic, something extraordinary, something beautiful that makes the world go wow.

What if your colleagues don’t stand by you? 
What if in a difficult situation your biggest supporter stands against you? 
What if your teachers(mentors) stop teaching you? 
Should you stop? 

The reason they are doing this is because they feel threatened. Yes, I know it sounds completely weird and awful. But, that’s truth. The society has never loved the genius. Now my simple question to you is that if no one is supporting you, are you even supporting yourself? Where is the fighter in you?

There will be people who will underestimate you. There will be many who will be in the first place in the race and you know they have cheated, but then what should you do? You should run. Run faster than them. Run better than them. In the end of every race, the one who spends his energy in the most constructive manner wins, not the one who was at the first place when the race began.

So my dear friend, the truth has always had to fight harder. The harder the fight, the sweeter the fruit. Who wants easy success? Right ?

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.