How to Develop a Winner's Mindset Each and Every Day

Developing our self is more or less like an art, we really don’t know what hidden potential resides within us, until and unless we tap it with a hammer and make it come out. Just like an artist sometimes never knows what he is creating till the point he actually completes his painting, he always says that “My art took me there. I was just going with it.”

Life is like this only. We want to get better each and every day and in doing so we want to come out, somewhat magically, being a person we never thought we could be (In a good sense of course). But just like an artist needs his brush and other tools to get there, I would like to suggest you the following tools that you can use to get to your own unique form of greatness :-

1.    MEDITATION.

Okay ! It might seem to you that this is a very old dogma and ineffective in such turbulent times, but believe me, meditation is what we really need today to escape this wormhole of stress. Meditation can benefit you in ways more than I could ever explain. Studies have proved that with meditation we can strengthen our EQ (Emotional Quotient) 100 times faster than without it. Meditation provides benefits like persistence, patience, anger management, stress management and can even cure mental illnesses like Alzheimer and Dementia. Check How to make your EQ stronger ??? [EQ Vs IQ (Part 2 of 2)]

2.    SPEND SOME ALONE TIME EVERYDAY.

Or if you can’t manage then at least one hour every week. This way you will know much better about yourself and you can even question your conscience in this manner. Whatever problems you are going through right now, just sit back and ask yourself those questions, answers will surely come.

3.    THE MIGHTY “WHY?”

Ask yourself the simple question, “Why should you stretch yourself for greatness ?”,”Why should you try becoming your better self each and every day?” and “Why should you today make yourself shine brightly than ever before?” 

Answers will surely come. Many times we forget about asking these questions to ourselves and please don’t ask these questions mentally, WRITE THESE DOWN WITH ANSWERS ON A FRESH PAPER, because writing down will make it stronger for your brain to accept it. This technique will help you in gaining a winner’s mindset.

4.    READ GREAT AUTOBIOGRAPHIES.

Martin Luther King Jr, Mahatma Gandhi, Osho etc there are many great men and women who have walked this planet Earth. I suggest, read such books. This is a sure shot way to get expert advice from such great men because even though they aren’t available physically, with their books we can easily access their wisdom, and in doing so we are moved deeply from inside to seek out change and get inspired each and every day.

Reflect on these ideas and make sure you apply at least one from them. These points will help you in ways more than you could imagine.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

How to make your EQ stronger ??? [EQ Vs IQ (Part 2 of 2)]

[Read : EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2) ]

Hello! I hope all are doing well and hunting down your dreams every day. In my earlier blog post, I shared with you an example that how EQ is different from IQ.

We most probably are pretty much aware now that the EQ is much more important than the IQ. All the major companies around the globe do want their workforce to have a strong IQ but from past few decades, this trend has been changing. Every organization now wants to employ those candidates who qualify in IQ test but also stand par excellence to others. In the managerial levels as well, it is seen that the managers who have strong EQ tend to move up the organizational ladder much faster than their contemporaries. Emotional Intelligence is very much different from academic intelligence. Many who are book smart face difficulties in dealing with complex life situations in future just because they forget about strengthening their emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence is simply referred to as the ability of which one can remain poised, serene and calm amidst various troubles happening in his/ her life. It can also be defined as the ability of a person to be stable inside when the outside seems to have fallen apart.

So how do we make our EQ stronger?

I suggest you, the following tips to focus on for a few days to make yourself much stronger in EQ than others. Before reading below just remember this formula:-

      EQ = SELF WORTH

I’ll explain later why I have put this formula for you to consider.

1)    Give Love to yourself.

Many times it happens that we give love to others to such a great extent, be it in an imagination or in an outer world, that we ourselves make us empty from inside. This habit of loving others than they love you back should only be adopted if your own cup is filled to the full.

2)    Practice the wonderful habit of gratitude.

We don’t need all that money to be happy. Do we? We don’t even need to have a super luxury car to make ourselves happy. Yes, these material things are important in life and they do add to the spice in life. But many times we forget about saying”Thank You” for what we have. If you have a loving family, you are blessed. If you have food on your table, feel blessed. If you have a roof over your head and two eyes to read this blog post, you are truly blessed. Many don’t even have this privilege.

3)    Expect less.

Expectations are big culprits in robbing us off from our self-worth. It does feel bad when someone whom we cared a lot doesn’t give us back that same love and care. Read my blog post (titled : Why do we get hurt) to know more on this point. A simple rule to follow: Other than those who care for you, give what you get from them. That is a sure way to make yourself stand for yourself in times of difficulties. Letting people walk over you isn’t what true leaders do. They are friendly, yet super firm and deeply connected to their core values, of which self-worth comes among the most important ones.

4)    Burn out all past hurts and worries.

  Bruce Lee used to apply this technique during his tough times. He always used to write down his worries on a piece of paper and then burn up that paper. According to him, that burning paper would make him feel as if his worries and tensions are getting burned. This technique has helped me innumerable times to get past all negative emotions and exude passion and vitality in the world around me.

5)    Spend Alone Time.

For an hour every week, be alone. Switch off your cell phones. Go away from your family. Be very, very hard to reach. Shut out all noises to listen to the voice within you. Be alone for some hours. You can either go to a coffee shop or sit down on a bench in a park. Now rest your mind there. Think about your dreams. Think of yourself as a businessman and get into deep thinking mode to reflect on your ways of doing things and ask yourself if they are in line with your dreams or not. In this deep abyss of self-love, you will figure out who you truly are and what you are meant to be in life. Trust me, you will grow exponentially, you’ll figure out what actually gives you that adrenaline rush, you’ll discover your innate talents, you’ll experience true bliss after this exercise. You will then develop your own crystal clear clarity with which you will gift yourself the most beautiful gift of having a pristine mindset. 

6)    Last, but by no means the least, Dedicate yourself to something higher than just living your days. Serve the humanity. Discover your talents. Dedicate yourself to making this work a better place than you found it and if you cannot do it, will your living make any difference? Leave behind a legacy. Be kind to strangers. Respect humanity. Smile at your colleagues. Make a new friend every day. In the end, all that matters is how kind your heart truly is.

These were the Super Six that will lift you up in your EQ.

Remember that formula?

Revisit it and connect that formula to each one of these points, you’ll notice that how our Emotional Quotient is directly connected to our Self Worth.

Hope my ideas will provide you with some beautiful changes to make into your daily habits. DO them. Revisit this blog post as many times you feel the need of the push. Am here for you always.

Dream. Dare. Shine.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.