Say "Thank You" More Often

You woke up. 

You checked your cell phone. 

Went to the washroom. 

Brushed your teeth. 

Had some coffee/tea and before you even realize you left for work or to fetch that daily newspaper you so much waited for the whole night!

Now let me ask you one simple question:- Is it you channeling yourself or someone else? 

No! It definitely ain’t you. It’s your boss or your newspaper vendor who’s channeling you and you are completely unaware of this!

Sometimes we do say “Thank You” to both of them, but we so often forget to say thanks to the guy above them too.

Yes, Am referring to the guy up there who gave birth to all of us.

We forget to say thanks to him very often. We forget that he’s the one who has given us each and everything to be thankful for. Gratitude isn’t the only thing am referring you to practice. Not even praying, though the way we pray is altogether not right most of the times(Another post for that later).

It is proved by scientific researches that our soul has some weight too. Our soul is something that isn’t made up of any matter. It’s invisible, yet very much here. Similarly is The God Particle. Some call it Jesus Christ,some call it as The Infinite Intelligence, some call it as Krishna, some as Shiva, some as Waheguru and some as Allah. But all these different paths lead to the same destination.

This very moment when you are reading this write-up, someone in Puerto Rico might be in his last breaths, someone in Thailand might be going through excruciating pain while giving birth to her child, someone in India might be suffering from cancer and praying for his recovery, a single dad in Canada might be leaving his children to school for the first time, a teenager somewhere in Shanghai  is frightened to go to his school because he is made fun of having stutter.

There are many other worse situations you could have been in. But, look around you. Your life is so much blessed. YOU are so much blessed. 

LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL.

Please don’t spend this beautiful, new, inspiring day remembering your sins. We all have done our part of sins. No one is perfect. But that’s what makes us more human, being aware of our mistakes and learning from them to get better in the art of life.

Say, Thank You to god (or the Universal Energy, whatever you believe in) for giving you one more day to live this beautiful life. You being alive is a blessing. He has a mission for you to fulfill. He has sent you here to make things better, not worse. So why not keep Him in mind always and do the good deed? 

From the bottom of your heart, say Thank You to the energy up there for blessing you with the clothes to wear, family and friends to love, food to eat, water to drink and sheltered home to live in. 

Trust me, when you'll start saying Thank You more often and from the core of yourself, you'll feel blessed and life will thus seem like a playground to dance, live, laugh, and love! :) 

Until next time…

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy. And . . . Stay grateful!

Thank You for reading my this short article, dear sweet soul! 

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Where Do You Count Yourself ?

It's a basic human tendency to count ourselves as superior to other human beings around us. Yes, no doubt in the fact that we are all masters of different crafts and skills and no one can match us; we are all unique. But what drives me to think is that does such kind of thinking makes us arrogant, egoistic or kind and a gentle human being ? This is by far the most imperative, highly impressionable point I have ever encountered with.

The main question I want you to consider right now, is that where do you count yourself ? Do you get counted as an arrogant, grumpy person or you are loved by all for being a kind and gentle human being ?

Now I know, no one of us would raise a hand and say "oh yeah! I am the grumpy idiot you're looking for".

So for your sake, I have developed a few questions for you to answer that will determine your side soon. Please be honest with yourself and give out the answer as quickly as it snaps, without delay.

Here we go !

Ready ?

1)    In a marriage or a family function or a big party, do you stand outside the group, make fewer conversations and tend to be a wallflower, preferring not to go and meet the other people ?

2)    When you wake up, you get straight into the shower, eat your breakfast and rush off to the office, without kissing goodbye to your loved ones ?

3)    Do you like the face you see in the mirror each and every day in the morning?

4)    Do you feel that your everyday activity is getting you somewhat closer to where you want to be at the end of your life ?

5)    Do you help a stranger now and then ?

6)    Do you believe in charity ?

7)    Do you ever feel like taking a flower (without any special occasion) for your sweetheart to tell him/her how much you appreciate them ?

8)    Do you have a weekly habit of calling up your parents and a monthly habit (at least once a month) to meet them ?

9)    Have you installed the same beliefs in your life which you proudly lecture to your peers about?

10)  Are you taking responsibility today ?

11)  Do you pay gratitude for what you have today, instead of fretting over for what you lack ?

12)  Can you show your answers, proudly, to these questions to your closest ones ?

13)  Do you love yourself ?

Result Time !

If you have answered "No" to 5 or more questions, then buddy, you stand on the egoistic, arrogant side. See it's not my view point, it's a general view. If you are not praising your wife for making a tasty dish, then to her you would definitely look grumpy. If you don't appreciate your subordinates or make no room for them to unleash their creativity then you will be tagged as a dictator, not a leader.

Reflect upon these questions in your journal today and deeply think where all do you need improvement.

We all have imperfections, including me, but we all can improve.

My job here is done to make you aware of your negatives. Action part lies on your side. Will you make the effort to move the needle from being a grumpy man to a kind, generous human being ?

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

How to make your EQ stronger ??? [EQ Vs IQ (Part 2 of 2)]

[Read : EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2) ]

Hello! I hope all are doing well and hunting down your dreams every day. In my earlier blog post, I shared with you an example that how EQ is different from IQ.

We most probably are pretty much aware now that the EQ is much more important than the IQ. All the major companies around the globe do want their workforce to have a strong IQ but from past few decades, this trend has been changing. Every organization now wants to employ those candidates who qualify in IQ test but also stand par excellence to others. In the managerial levels as well, it is seen that the managers who have strong EQ tend to move up the organizational ladder much faster than their contemporaries. Emotional Intelligence is very much different from academic intelligence. Many who are book smart face difficulties in dealing with complex life situations in future just because they forget about strengthening their emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence is simply referred to as the ability of which one can remain poised, serene and calm amidst various troubles happening in his/ her life. It can also be defined as the ability of a person to be stable inside when the outside seems to have fallen apart.

So how do we make our EQ stronger?

I suggest you, the following tips to focus on for a few days to make yourself much stronger in EQ than others. Before reading below just remember this formula:-

      EQ = SELF WORTH

I’ll explain later why I have put this formula for you to consider.

1)    Give Love to yourself.

Many times it happens that we give love to others to such a great extent, be it in an imagination or in an outer world, that we ourselves make us empty from inside. This habit of loving others than they love you back should only be adopted if your own cup is filled to the full.

2)    Practice the wonderful habit of gratitude.

We don’t need all that money to be happy. Do we? We don’t even need to have a super luxury car to make ourselves happy. Yes, these material things are important in life and they do add to the spice in life. But many times we forget about saying”Thank You” for what we have. If you have a loving family, you are blessed. If you have food on your table, feel blessed. If you have a roof over your head and two eyes to read this blog post, you are truly blessed. Many don’t even have this privilege.

3)    Expect less.

Expectations are big culprits in robbing us off from our self-worth. It does feel bad when someone whom we cared a lot doesn’t give us back that same love and care. Read my blog post (titled : Why do we get hurt) to know more on this point. A simple rule to follow: Other than those who care for you, give what you get from them. That is a sure way to make yourself stand for yourself in times of difficulties. Letting people walk over you isn’t what true leaders do. They are friendly, yet super firm and deeply connected to their core values, of which self-worth comes among the most important ones.

4)    Burn out all past hurts and worries.

  Bruce Lee used to apply this technique during his tough times. He always used to write down his worries on a piece of paper and then burn up that paper. According to him, that burning paper would make him feel as if his worries and tensions are getting burned. This technique has helped me innumerable times to get past all negative emotions and exude passion and vitality in the world around me.

5)    Spend Alone Time.

For an hour every week, be alone. Switch off your cell phones. Go away from your family. Be very, very hard to reach. Shut out all noises to listen to the voice within you. Be alone for some hours. You can either go to a coffee shop or sit down on a bench in a park. Now rest your mind there. Think about your dreams. Think of yourself as a businessman and get into deep thinking mode to reflect on your ways of doing things and ask yourself if they are in line with your dreams or not. In this deep abyss of self-love, you will figure out who you truly are and what you are meant to be in life. Trust me, you will grow exponentially, you’ll figure out what actually gives you that adrenaline rush, you’ll discover your innate talents, you’ll experience true bliss after this exercise. You will then develop your own crystal clear clarity with which you will gift yourself the most beautiful gift of having a pristine mindset. 

6)    Last, but by no means the least, Dedicate yourself to something higher than just living your days. Serve the humanity. Discover your talents. Dedicate yourself to making this work a better place than you found it and if you cannot do it, will your living make any difference? Leave behind a legacy. Be kind to strangers. Respect humanity. Smile at your colleagues. Make a new friend every day. In the end, all that matters is how kind your heart truly is.

These were the Super Six that will lift you up in your EQ.

Remember that formula?

Revisit it and connect that formula to each one of these points, you’ll notice that how our Emotional Quotient is directly connected to our Self Worth.

Hope my ideas will provide you with some beautiful changes to make into your daily habits. DO them. Revisit this blog post as many times you feel the need of the push. Am here for you always.

Dream. Dare. Shine.

Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.