Am I a misfit ?

I understand, that it is a bit strange for you to find such a topic on my blog and most obviously, you are intrigued by the fact that why today have I taken this topic to write. Rest your questions. Let's talk.

Many times we have had this thought that the world is right and we are wrong. This arises the self-doubt. And as soon as we start immersing ourselves and keep dwelling on this thought of "if I am a misfit or not" before we know it, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, which then feeds on our minds like weeds destroying a gorgeous garden.

So how to avoid it and make sure that we keep our mind's beautiful garden weed free ?

 For that we first need to understand the concept behind "I'm a misfit or not" mindset.

Obviously, I am no certified doctor or a psychiatrist but I have seen the lows of life a lot more than my peers and have myself suffered this fear's pain. Have been there. Done that. Came out successfully. So I thought, why not help others overcome this fear ?

In this blog post I'll not only just remove that weed completely from your mind, but till the end of the blog post, I assure you that you will feel the presence of a newly sown seed of self-confidence and vitality within you. Because if we leave it removed, it will surely grow back. (No am not into farming, if you're thinking that, but my mom is. Happened to learn a thing or two from her)

You are a misfit. You think so ... okay. Give me the reason. WHY ?

Is it because you are so much passionate about chasing your dreams ?

Is it because you are always ready to help people?

Is it because you happen to forgive people much easily than if the sides are exchanged?

Is it because you love others so much and you don't get that love back ?

Or is it because you have that faith in your skills that the world cannot see you successful, but you can ?

What is your reason?

And am asking YOUR REASON!

Not the society's reason !!!

For instance, if you are answering me that "my friends and family members who know me well, they have told me that I can't do it" then still it isn't YOU speaking.

I demand an answer from you.

Why do you think that you are a misfit ?

Write down that reason on a piece of paper.

And now reflect on it.

You'll be astonished to discover that what you are thinking is not what your mind is saying, instead it's the product of other people's mindset and opinions.

If you want to be a dancer then be it. Stretch yourself to that bigness. The world will never be able to measure your dreams in their short sighted closed box mentality.

The world never believed the impossible word to be defeated until some man got up, rolled up his sleeves, slogged day and night and made that possible.

The world always used to believe that it is impossible to break the four-minute mile race record. Many tried and failed. A guy named Roger Bannister did what nobody could imagine and broke that record. It went viral. And within few weeks others were seen covering that distance in less than four minutes as well. I think we have a lot to learn from this story. Firstly, that nothing is undefeatable for the man who never gives up and is burning with hot red passion for differentiating himself from the crowd. And secondly, no one believed it could be done until one man did it. And others thus followed him. Why? Because he gave them the hope that it can be done !

We all are misfits in some way or other. Am no exception. Negatives and positives are there in all of us. Yin Yang. It obviously is true. But it solely rests in your hands to take your good to such a high level that your bad becomes so light that one day it vanishes from the brightness of the good in you. And just reflect in the thought that "IF WE REALLY WERE A MISFIT, WHY WOULD THEN WE BE HAVING THAT POWER TO THINK ABOUT OUR DREAMS ?"

You are not a misfit. Believe me. You are sent on this planet Earth to complete a mission. This world wouldn't have been the same if you weren't in it. We need you. The world needs your talents. See yourself as a small jigsaw piece of a big jigsaw puzzle. Earth is that image on it and I and you are just those tiny little jigsaw pieces. It all just fits in !

It will take you time to find your right place in it. Where you fit. Happily and lively. When you do discover it... You'll be ecstatic! :) And that is my heartfelt wishes for you.

So I want to leave you today with the thought that why not you be the Roger Bannister of your field?

Please remember that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing, and you don’t even need permission from the world to get your dreams done. What you do today is important, because you are exchanging one day of your life for it.

It's okay for the world to not believe in you. It's okay for the critics to laugh at your idea to be a legend. It's okay to sometimes fight over with your loved ones over your passion. Because in the end, only one question will remain.

"Did you make it happen ?"

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

EQ Vs IQ (Part 1 of 2)

Just a few weeks back I got my home renovated. Some labourers were employed who did their craft amazingly and made my home beautiful with a completely new, fresh and energizing ambience.

Now let me introduce you to my neighbor. He is a well mannered 34 years old man who is a senior level manager working in a big firm in Delhi.

So, on one day when the labourers were going from my home, after completing their that day's job, at the same time, this manager guy was coming up. The view was so contrasting to me that it intrigued me to look at them both separately and analyze them in different perspectives. After analyzing them for over an hour, In it, I discovered some deep wisdom to learn from the teacher called "Life".

On one side there is this labourer who is making a few dollars in a month so that he could afford a meagre existence in the slums. On the other hand, there is this manager, who makes 20X of what the labourer is earning. Now yes, we do understand the difference in both the parties is because of difference in educational qualifications, skill sets, knowledge and nature of work, besides other factors. But what really inspired me is the fact that a labourer seems to be much fitter and happier than the modern age managers ! The manager guy, which I shared with you about earlier is having a fat tummy and seems to be very lazy. Whereas the labourer is always active and full of energy during his whole work day. That labourer did engrave the high importance of fitness in our lives. Then when I looked closely at them, with regard to their personal lives, emotional standards, and the job satisfaction, I was surprised to see that the labourer won in all of it!

HOW COULD IT BE POSSIBLE?

For knowing the answer of this question, kindly choose any one of the two formulas :-

MORE MONEY = MORE HAPPINESS

OR

MORE MONEY = MORE TENSIONS + MORE WORRIES + MORE WORKS TO DO + MORE GLOOMY DAYS + MORE RISK OF LOSING THAT MONEY.

Now let me ask you, what formula do you agree on ?

If you got on the first one, let me congratulate you because you are on the abundance mindset.

And if you chose the second one, then you are in the scarcity mindset.

Why is that so ?

Abundance mindset makes you feel that you are in control of money, whereas the scarcity mindset suggests you that money is in control of you. No wonder that why most of the people then end up running after money and on the other hand why some people become millionaires in just one generation !

The labourer was on the abundance mindset, as compared to the manager who was residing in the scarcity mindset. The labourer is always smiling, takes his work just like a CEO gives regard to his work, enjoys his life completely and is in fact, according to me, leading a richer life as compared to the manager, who is constantly complaining, fat, smokes 3-4 cigarettes in a day and night. He has even forgotten how to smile.

This feels so painful to me that why do some people have a strong IQ but lack in a strong EQ ? A large part of the answer to this is that the "manager types" are not aware of the high importance of a strong EQ. A person with stronger EQ is able to dodge the problems of life much easily and wisely as compared to the other.

The word I want to focus here is balance. I believe we should balance the EQ of the labourer with the IQ of the manager.

Money is important in our lives. Obviously, it makes the journey of life easy, but it shouldn't be allowed to rule us. Otherwise, the health and emotional lives you are sacrificing right now to earn the money might be the same culprits who will eat up your bank account.  We really shouldn't let our emotional life be at the mercy of the work pressure of the job we are doing. I understand that these are tough times and your company needs you more than ever, but the times were always tough. And they always will be in the future as well. All humans have their share of the sorrows and smiles. Life actually means to count the smiles and eliminate the sorrows.

The labourer indeed taught me a valuable lesson. So, who do you think is richer among the two ?

I know you all will be on the lookout to know how to make your EQ stronger, so in my next blog post, you'll be served with some gorgeous ideas and mind blowing tactics to make you completely indomitable.

Till next time. 

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.

What do winners focus on that losers don't?

I guess the reason you've clicked this topic is because you are really eager to know what the winners focus on to be winners and this act of yours defines the courage and strength in you, and I salute it. I salute the powerful soul in you that is so very much ready to learn what the winners focus on. I salute the person in you who is ready to enlighten the world with his genius.

So now I don't have any right to stop you from knowing the secret behind the successful men of this world. So here I go :-

The successful men and women of all ages have had a very tough competition. They had a very tough competition against their mightiest critic who happened to be their best teacher. All the great athletes, all great business tycoons, all great artists the history has ever known, they all had their competition with themselves. They never focused on what their competitors did. This is the main point which differentiated them from the losers. The losers always focus on the winners.

If a winner will be focusing on the loser won't he come to that level?

If a loser will focus on a winner, will he be ever able to focus on winning? Because most of the time he will be focusing on how to defeat his competitor(i.e. winner) and in doing so he wastes some part of his energy. This part of the energy which was not wasted by the winner will be utilised by him in focusing on "winning" rather than on loser. So, you see, that little amount of energy wasted by the loser to focus on the winner instead of focusing on the winning defines the gap between a genius and a mediocre guy.

Success is always defined by the winners. They are the authors of the history. Winners know how to write the history well. They are aware that they have to leave behind themselves a legacy. A legacy that will be continued. A legacy that will be modelled by the future generations. Whereas the losers just leave behind themselves the graves.

Don't you remember the names of the famous Kings like Napoleon? Do you remember the name of even one of his army men? I guess you won't, unless you're a history lecturer.

The world has always been respectful to the top rung people. And I think that is the place that you deserve. You have the right to be at the top. Why settle for second best when you know you're first class? And am here to throw you into the ocean of self-mastery. You have an oxygen tank named Motivational Enlightenment  where I'll be constantly filling in the oxygen. It now depends on you if you want to swim or drown.

 Reach deep within this ocean, it's a whole new world down there. I swear you'll love it. You'll want to live your whole life there. 

There are stones(negative energies) and pearls(positive energies) down there. Let's see who brings what to the surface. 

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.