How to be angry on someone, yet not hurt them or yourself in the process of it?

Yes, I do encourage people to have less and less angry, be calm and try to understand the situation of the other person in the moments you feel angry, but yes, it is an undeniable fact that we face innumerable circumstances where we feel the deep urge to yell out and scream at the other person. This process obviously makes you angry a lot, increases your stress levels, increases your blood pressure, upsets the whole atmosphere etc. This act might make you feel relieved of the stress, but this "relieving period" is short lived.

This is so because when you have yelled out and thrown your mental pressure on the other person, he/she might yell back at you just louder this time to relieve themselves or they might cry. It actually goes on like a vicious circle of yelling at each other till the head starts aching or the heart starts beating rapidly or someone else enters and ends the fight. But wouldn't it feel awesome, when you yell at someone and they don't yell back at you?

Unfortunately, a few rare people have that much of patience and calmness inside to not add fuel to the fire.

So today, let me share with you an idea to shout at a person, yell at him/her and then be calm and carry on. And the wonder of this technique ? You'll not hurt them.

This technique is really simple and easy to use. You can do it whenever and wherever you feel the urge to spit out the inner turmoil to make yourself calm and at peace.

You probably know who was Mark Twain, right? He lost his temper at the slightest of tension, so he used to write letters full of resentment, rebuke, and sharp criticism. After writing such letters he would feel relieved and the letters didn't even harm anyone. Reason being, his wife lifted them out those letters from the mail box.

I have given a little spin on this and made this more valuable and easy-to-use for you all.

I would obviously advise you to be calm and look the grass from the other side as well before yelling out at the other person, but if you still feel the need to let it out then just let it out!

Why not you also write such a letter to whom you want to get angry on?

Follow these steps :-

1)    Fill it with the reasons, why you don't appreciate them or why you don't like such behavior, yell whatever you want to. Imagine the person standing in front of you and just write whatever comes first in mind.

2)    Relax now. Sit back for a while. You have thrown out your anger dude, relax for a while. JUST DON'T SEND THE LETTER RIGHT NOW. Sure you will, not now, wait and read on.

3)    Practice inhaling and exhaling.

4)    To get out of that mindset completely, go for a beer with your friends or call up your bestie or eat junk food (in control!) or do anything that makes you feel good.

5)    Spend at least an hour on the activity of number 4.

6)    Take that letter out. Read it as if it is addressed to you.

7)    Now burn that letter.

I know it was painful for you to read that letter, knowing the fact that you are the same person who wrote it. Just imagine how much pain and anger you would have inflicted in the relationship if you had sent that letter. And if you still feel the need to yell, for a moment, make yourself sit in the other person's shoes. Try viewing the problem from their side.

Everyone is going through something in their lives which triggers them to get angry with you. Feel pity for such people. Because not all have this privilege to get the anger out like you do by following the above mentioned advice.

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Till next time.

Stay motivated. Stay excited. Stay happy.